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Being Epic!

Being Epic!

Life can get too busy! And drag all of us down. I told Reggie and someone else this a few minutes ago on Facebook: You can be busy and not accomplishing anything you want. Or you can be picky on what you do and get closer to what you want to have in your future.

To have an EPIC life, FOCUS is critical! Over the past few days I’ve told what my days include. I’m obsessed with beating this concussion! And because of that: I will beat it! My activities, my diet, and everything in my life is focused on this single goal. Until I beat this: nothing else gets my focus. I’ve even set my life up to have my business be part of my beating this!

I want to suggest something to you: if I can do what I’m doing to beat a concussion: then what reason do you have to not pursue something you have a burning desire to achieve?

I want to suggest that you watch this 15-minute video on Burning Desire: Napoleon Hill’s Master Key – Episode 8 “Enthusiasm” or “Burning Desire” HD – Think and Grow Rich

If you truly want an epic life, get picky on your daily activities. Everything stems from there.


16 Habits of the Very Rich 10

16 Habits of the Very Rich 10

We are at number 10! WOW!!!!

79% vs. 16%.

What falls into this category? My response will surprise you. And it’s defined at “the action or process of interacting with others to exchange information and develop professional or social contacts.”

It’s networking.

Here are 14 reasons to do this!
1. You might find a mentor. This is really helpful when you are just starting out or starting over. Maybe you are like me and spent 20+ years working from home and are starting a new career. A mentor will help shorten the learning curve you will go through.
2. You may hear about opportunities that aren’t public yet.
3. Build lifelong friendships.
4. It’s an avenue to exchange ideas. And that will help with creating better business strategies.
5. It makes you more noticeable in public. Your boss will likely notice this. This makes you more stand out and as a result, you will be able to offer more.
6. You can get support from high-profile people. You’ve heard me refer to Reggie Cochran on a number of posts. Likely over 80% of my posts here. He’s high-profile. And you will continue to hear about him. It’s because he is not only my friend, but also my leader. He is very high-profile because he’s the project coordinator for Chuck & Gena Norris, a mentor to other high-profile people, and a best-selling writer.
7. You will have more confidence. As you develop more confidence, your life will inevitably improve.
8. Six-degrees of separation: this makes anything possible! This rule says that generally there are never more than 6 people between you and the person you want to talk to.
9. Finding a job: 60%-80% of jobs are found through networking.
10. By broadening your professional horizons, you will stay sharp and current.
11. If you are in sales, networking will help you with getting more sales.
12. Are you unhappy with your career? Networking will help you get into a new career.
13. Golden Rule: you help others, and you’ll receive help.
14. Finally, remember this: a good network is simply just a circle of friends.


16 Habits of the Very Rich part 7

16 Habits of the Very Rich part 7

We are almost half-way through this series! Today, like yesterday, will be short. Mainly because today’s topic is one, I’ve discussed previously a lot! And taught by Reggie on a frequent basis. If you need help on this: I would encourage you to reach out to me directly. I will connect you to Reggie. He’s the best in this one!

Goal Setting! 67% of the wealthy do this vs 17% of the poor!

Why set goals? Here are some reasons:
1. It keeps you moving forward and motivated.
2. The bible suggests it! Proverbs 4:25-27 says “Let your eyes look straight ahead, fix your gaze directly before you. Give careful thought to the paths for your feet and be steadfast in all your ways. Do not turn to the right or the left; keep your foot from evil.”
3. It gives clear direction on what needs to happen for your life to be what you want.
4. It’s fun!

How do you set goals?
I have a specific strategy that I use that I learned from Reggie. But here are some of the components to it:
1. Decide what you want.
2. Write it down.
3. Make sure it’s SMART. Is it specific? Is it measurable? Is it attainable? Is it realistic? And is it time bound?
4. Create a dream board to keep you moving forward on it. For a refresher, here’s mine:

Blessing board 2

One of the things Reggie and I both believe in, and I learned this from him, is that until a dream board is created with images to motivate you toward reaching your specific goals your goal sheet is not completed.

Again, if you need help, reach out to me. I will help and get you connected to Reggie as well.

isaac-smith-9pTR4tiqkvs-unsplash Photo by Isaac Smith on Unsplash

16 Habits of the Very Rich, Part 5

16 Habits of the Very Rich, Part 5

What do 81% of the wealthy and only 19% of the poor do? I’ll give you a hint, or 2: it only takes a few minutes and will DRASTICALLY reduce stress in your life! And people with autism can’t function without doing this. It gives direction to the day, week, month and year! It’s the 5th thing that John & Nadya Melton teach about on this.

It’s having a to-do list! Sounds simple (and it is!), but very few do it. On this post, I’m going to pull from my own knowledge from my home-schooling years. And when my own kids were little. My kids are now ages 16-23. And when I quit doing this simple activity, my life became so chaotic, that I ended up falling apart. But maybe you’ve never done this. Or been taught how. Here’s my way of doing it. There are many ways to do this, but this is what I’ve learned.

1. Write down EVERY single thing that you have to get done. Include business/work, personal, kids, family, etc. This needs to include things that only get done on a weekly, monthly or yearly basis.
2. After you’ve written down what you have to do, categorize it into what needs to be done daily, then weekly, then monthly, and finally yearly.
3. After you’ve determined what needs to be done and how often, it gets MUCH easier! You schedule what order things get done. And this really comes down to personal preference. Some people work best by setting time blocks to get things done, others do best by doing a calendar with times. Most do a combination of these. For example, maybe you are in a class at the local gym. That will be at a specific time. That will also apply for work hours. By the way, a success tip I got from several of my leaders, including Reggie Cochran is if you have your own business: schedule it and work it like you would a job you go to. And treat it like that!
4. And that’s basically it. You will need to tweak it and adjust it when life changes. But a basic to-do list will simply allow you to get the things done each day that are required. And a bonus that you will discover is that you will have time to pursue those things that you “thought” you didn’t have time for. Such as a home-based business or a goal you thought you didn’t have time to pursue.

Now, what do you do when your friends/family/others don’t support this? First, decide if the opinion of that person really matters. A spouse or your parents, yes, they matter. And hopefully will support you in this! But anyone else (even well-meaning friends), decide if they are against it because you are making a decision that will inevitably change the relationship with them in some way. A story Reggie told me a few years ago will help here it’s the story of the crab bucket.

One time a man was walking along the beach and saw another man fishing in the surf with a bait bucket beside him.
As he drew closer, he saw that the bait bucket had no lid and had live crabs inside.
“Why don’t you cover your bait bucket, so the crabs won’t escape?” he said.
“You don’t understand,” the man replied, “If there is one crab in the bucket it would surely crawl out very quickly.
However, when there are many crabs in the bucket, if one tries to crawl up the side, the others grab hold of it and pull it back down so that it will share the same fate as the rest of them.”

Do you have too many crabs in your life? If you do: maybe, it’s time to change it.

crab bucket

Another lesson I learned applies here too: you are like the 5 people you spend the most time with. If you are spending time with people who are broke, who have no ambition, or no dreams. That will impact how you live your life. But the nice thing is you can change this. I’m not saying it will be easy or that everyone will support it. In fact, since I made the commitment to change, I’ve lost MANY friends. BUT I’ve gained friends who have more than made up for it. And it’s changing my life for the better!

Here’s a video that talks about it:

The Law of Averages | One Minute Lesson

Finally, get a GRIP on life. (I’m not yelling, by the way). This is an acronym from my awesome friend, Bob Goshen. From his book: “Confident Hope:Getting Through What Your Going Through.”

G: God is in control. He will help you through this and guide you. Just ask Him to.
R: Rejoice during the challenge. Taking control of your time is a challenge, but it’s so worth it!
I: Initiate your faith. Bob’s wife, Kay, has a wonderful take on Hebrews 11:1 which says, “Faith is the confidence that what we hope for will actually happen; it gives us assurance about things we cannot see.” Kay’s interpretation is this: “Faith is believing something is so when it is not so, so it can be so.”
P: Prayer! Prayer is how I begin and end my day. But throughout the day, I also find myself praying throughout the day. And it’s because of that I’m able to handle my life. And anything that comes my way.

I hope this helps. As always, if I can help, let me know.

16 Habits of the VERY RICH 3

16 Habits of the VERY RICH 3

What is #3 on John & Nadya Melton’s My Lifestyle Academy teaching on 16 Habits of the Very Rich? How often do you work out? If you are wealthy (or working toward it), you are part of the 76% of those who do. But if you are poor (and content with it), you are in the 23% of those who do it. Big difference! If you are battling an injury, or recovering from an illness does that mean you shouldn’t exercise? Maybe for a while, yes. But even then: there are things that you can do. Here are some suggestions I got from an article in Shape Magazine How To Exercise After Being Sick:

Start slow! Start with a light cardio then resistance training. Then add on. Start at 70% of what you were doing.

Reduce your weights and cardio by about 30% for a few days. This will make up what you lost while you were sick.

Build back slowly, even if you are temped to push harder.

What if you don’t do typical workouts and are in martial arts? The same idea applies. Talk to your sensei. And follow his/her advice. A good sensei will understand and work with you. You may even need to return to what you did as a white belt. There is NOTHING wrong with getting grounded again in the basics. Here are 10 reasons to exercise and be physically active:

1. More energy!
2. Burn more calories at rest
3. Improve overall appearance
4. Be able to withstand stress
5. Decrease risk of illness
6. Speed up recovery from injury or surgery
7. Keep focused
8. Build up cardiovascular endurance
9. Improve flexibility
10.Increase lean body mass

Reggie and Carlos
It’s known that because of Reggie Cochran, I’m a fan (if not fanatic, lol), of martial arts. Here are 10 reasons to learn one!

1. Fitness! It’s an awesome exercise program!
2. Learn life skills, including confidence, focus, self-discipline, self-defense, leadership and respect! For EVERY and I martial artist I’m friends with: RESPECT is the #1 reason to learn it. It carries over into every area of life.
3. Coordination and flexibility. You will get more flexibility and have better coordination as you learn this.
4. Hammers discipline. An article I read said this: “A sense of responsibility and alertness is promoted as you learn Martial Arts. Thus, with the instilling of discipline comes the knowledge of how to behave, act and perform; curbing any kind of misbehavior and delinquency.” (Ayesha Shaikh: 10 Reasons to Learn Martial Arts)
5. Learn a new art form. The wise never stop learning. This carries over into every area of life.
6. Self-confidence will improve drastically. Having confidence in what you can do will push you to learn more.
7. Law enforcement: Ayesha Shaikh said in the same article listed above “There are times when public becomes barbaric, taking laws in their own hands and creating ruckus on the street. On such occasions, the police usually control the crows by resorting to techniques of Martial Arts. Moreover, when sometimes unarmed officers are attacked by unexpected strangers, Martial Arts comes to the rescue and helps save lives.”
8. Mental and spiritual development. When you learn to focus, you will also learn mental toughness. It’s comparable to being given a challenge, and then rising to the challenge to achieve it. This will lead to spiritual peace. And allows for mental development. Frank Gutting said, “Martial Arts should be a way of life, not a job, hobby, sport but a part of you and the way you live your life.” I see this in EVERY black belt I’m friends with. Without exception.
9. Preservation of a nation’s tangible cultural heritage. Martial arts are a traditional art form. But it’s also plays a HUGE role in maintaining overall growth and development: physical, psychological and spiritual.
10. Finally, self-defense. There is a rise in aggressive behavior. Those people who know martial arts can defend themselves or in someone in need in that situation. A movie called “The Martial Arts Kid” by Traditionz Entertainment show this. And it’s a movie I strongly suggest you get. I loved it!

Faith and Martial Arts???

Faith and Martial Arts???

A google search of martial arts and Christianity generated about 16,600,000 results! Can a believer in Jesus practice martial arts safely? My response is YES! There are some martial arts forms that originated in Israel. And the actress named Gal Gadot who played Wonder Woman in the last movie in 2017 was herself Israeli. She learned Krav Maga, a style that I have several friends who are black belts in.

From the beginning, I knew that Reggie was a Christian. And he’s taught me more about being a believer in Jesus than anyone. When Jesus walked the earth, He was all about building relationships. Reggie and I are the same way. I’m not against churches. Far from it. But I do believe that we need to get back to where Jesus had His disciples. And it’s possible. We just need to get back to the basics. And follow what the Bible teaches. Completely. It’s simple.

When it comes to what Reggie has taught me, it’s actually very simple. If Jesus said it or did it: we can do the same thing if we have Jesus living inside of us. It’s really that simple. And achievable. Reggie has encouraged me to learn from 3 specific church leaders. This was really helpful last summer when most of the time on weekends I was working 7am to 7pm and going to a physical church wasn’t logistically possible. But I was determined to not allow my faith to be impacted. Many times, at work I would be listening to online sermons. Here’s the ones I listen to, and still continue to do even though I’m able to go to church now on Sundays and even Wednesday’s sometimes. If you click on the name, you will go to the website.

1. Kenneth Copeland Ministries and Eagle Mountain International Church, which is part of it.
2. Andrew Wommack Ministries
3. Curry Blake who leads John G. Lake Ministries.

What does this have to do with martial arts? A LOT!!!! I have already said in this series that one of Reggie’s projects is he is the project coordinator for Chuck & Gena Norris. It’s well known that the Norris’s are Christians. So is Reggie. So am I. But we are also martial artists.

Chuck Norris has a code of ethics that is excellent! One of these is this: “I will always remain loyal to God, my country, my family and my friends.” When I was first introduced to how martial arts could benefit me, I talked with a few friends who meant well. But they were not connected to martial arts in any capacity. They were VERY quick to inform me that martial arts is not something I should pursue because it’s new age. But my gut said, go for it! Reggie is one of the people who pointed out that being a Christian doesn’t mean you can’t practice any form of martial arts. And since then I’ve discovered that there are a LOT of believers in martial arts. So, maybe you’ve been thinking about martial arts but concerned about being a believer in this. Don’t let it hold you back. Support is there, and its great exercise! Need help finding a dojo? Let me know. I’ve got a LOT of friends in the martial arts community who are also believers. I’ll help. 😊


Lessons from Reggie: Think and Grow Rich Today

Lessons from Reggie: Think and Grow Rich Today

If you’ve followed me for any length of time, the name Dr. Reggie Cochran has come up. He’s one of the best friends I’ve ever had. So, I’m doing a series as to why focusing on what he’s taught me over the years.

One of the 1st lessons from Reggie came from a book he was in. It’s called Think and Grow Rich Today. This book has been a must read of mine for 6 years now. And I tell everyone to read it. Reggie wrote chapter 18, titled “THINK AND GROW RICH IN ALL AREAS OF YOUR LIFE.” From the beginning of the chapter, you realize that he’s compassionate! And EXTREMELY successful. Here’s part of what’s included in this:

“This book is not about me. So, I will not go into all the ways Think and Grow Rich changed my life. But I will share this… they helped me to go from what people called “poor trailer trash” who was picked on as a kid for being fat and dropped out of high school… to become a world champion martial artist with advanced degrees in Christian counseling and clinical hypnotherapy. This led to a career as a mental skills / business coach to many internationally known celebrities, athletes and business professionals. Napoleon’s teaching has further helped me in becoming a keynote speaker and Best-Selling author who has co-authored books with Bill Gates, Donald Trump, Brian Tracy, Jim Rohn and Zig Ziglar to name a few.”

One of the things that Reggie has worked with me on is that where the head goes the body follows. I am blessed to be one of Reggie’s mental skills and business clients. So, one of the things that he has spent the most time with me on is mental skills, and more recently business skills. I am a martial arts student, but currently Reggie is not my sensei. However, that is going to change soon because when he releases a new program, I am investing in it. I’ll be talking about that in an upcoming blog post when its released. For years I played the “blame game” on why my life sucked! It was everyone’s fault but mine. It’s when Reggie called me out on that (more than once) it changed. In 2013 through 2016 I was NOT coachable or teachable. But Reggie saw that I was making progress. And that’s why I didn’t lose him from my life. And it’s why I now have him as my leader, coach, friend and in many ways: family.

I realized that my success isn’t dependent on anyone but my own actions.
This applies to everyone. And also, to every part of life: physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Until full responsibility is taken, NOTHING will change. And any coaching from anyone won’t last. It wasn’t until I took this step that things began to change. Now, here’s a success tip: take what I’ve just said and put it to use. If I had done this sooner, I would be MUCH further along on my journey than I currently am. 😊

What is the difference between being coachable and teachable? I had to learn this. You can learn information. That is being teachable. But being coachable is different. Having knowledge is great! But using it is totally different. Taking information and learning to apply it in practical ways takes being coachable.

In October and November of 2019, I did some soul searching to decide what I wanted my life to look like going forward. And make some drastic changes in my life. This goes into the next step that Reggie does with his clients. Determine the goals they want. And write down in as much detail as possible WHY I wanted to accomplish each goal. One thing I’ve done is to get HYPER-FOCUSED. Meaning EVERY single goal, I have is connected to the other goals. I have goals in business and in my personal life. But for success to be achieved in 1 area, it has to be achieved in the other. Reggie taught me in that chapter “The more emotion attached to that goal, the greater chance of accomplishing it. I want them to be able to read “why” on a daily basis.” By having my goals tied into each other, I’m attaching emotion to it. I’m pursuing what Reggie calls the “Lavalicious Lifestyle.” This is simply a lifestyle that allows me to work and play on my terms.

My daily actions are a critical component to what I’m pursuing. I have certain things I have to do each day, week, and month to get what I want faster than I have. But, along the way: I have rewards lined up. Things as simple as a drink from a local coffee shop to a cruise later this year. Plus, blessing others in HUGE ways. To me: that is a reward! I love blessing others! It’s fun!

Next, accountability partners. Studies have shown that having an accountability partner increases the odds of success in MASSIVE ways. I’ve used Reggie as my accountability partner, kind of at first inadvertently, but now on purpose for years. And that leads to my final point on today’s post. Having an accountability partner is critical! Without one: the odds of being successful are SLIM. Reggie said this in his chapter: “This is someone that they are going to share their activities and results with on a regular basis.” Having Reggie as my accountability partner doesn’t mean that he “micromanages” every part of my life. But it does mean that he has “permission” to call me out when I’m not doing what I need to do. An accountability partner needs to be able to keep secrets and be supportive. Reggie also said “And you don’t want someone who is going to kick you while you are down and give you 100 reasons why you are not going to accomplish your goals. So, there has to be a lot of thought and consideration going into picking a great accountability partner.”

Reggie also said this within this chapter. And it’s worth sharing.

“See It: – I teach them how to visualize the outcome of their goals. To visually meditate in as much detail as possible their lifestyle – once they accomplish their goals.

Say It: – I help them write down positive affirmations that they will see and say, several times a day. I even encourage them to record themselves reading those affirmations so they can listen to them as much as possible. yes, I could do a recording for them in my voice and make more money for the service. But, without going into why, there is more power to your affirmations when you hear them in your own voice.

Be It: – Then I have them commit in writing to me and to their accountability partner, that they are going to follow through with their plan, no matter what it takes, for as long as it takes. They are not going to stop “three feet from gold.””

Like I’ve said: this is a book I suggest everyone read: Here’s the link to it on Amazon. Think and Grow Rich Today