If you’ve followed me for any length of time, the name Dr. Reggie Cochran has come up. He’s one of the best friends I’ve ever had. So, I’m doing a series as to why focusing on what he’s taught me over the years.
One of the 1st lessons from Reggie came from a book he was in. It’s called Think and Grow Rich Today. This book has been a must read of mine for 6 years now. And I tell everyone to read it. Reggie wrote chapter 18, titled “THINK AND GROW RICH IN ALL AREAS OF YOUR LIFE.” From the beginning of the chapter, you realize that he’s compassionate! And EXTREMELY successful. Here’s part of what’s included in this:
“This book is not about me. So, I will not go into all the ways Think and Grow Rich changed my life. But I will share this… they helped me to go from what people called “poor trailer trash” who was picked on as a kid for being fat and dropped out of high school… to become a world champion martial artist with advanced degrees in Christian counseling and clinical hypnotherapy. This led to a career as a mental skills / business coach to many internationally known celebrities, athletes and business professionals. Napoleon’s teaching has further helped me in becoming a keynote speaker and Best-Selling author who has co-authored books with Bill Gates, Donald Trump, Brian Tracy, Jim Rohn and Zig Ziglar to name a few.”
One of the things that Reggie has worked with me on is that where the head goes the body follows. I am blessed to be one of Reggie’s mental skills and business clients. So, one of the things that he has spent the most time with me on is mental skills, and more recently business skills. I am a martial arts student, but currently Reggie is not my sensei. However, that is going to change soon because when he releases a new program, I am investing in it. I’ll be talking about that in an upcoming blog post when its released. For years I played the “blame game” on why my life sucked! It was everyone’s fault but mine. It’s when Reggie called me out on that (more than once) it changed. In 2013 through 2016 I was NOT coachable or teachable. But Reggie saw that I was making progress. And that’s why I didn’t lose him from my life. And it’s why I now have him as my leader, coach, friend and in many ways: family.
I realized that my success isn’t dependent on anyone but my own actions.
This applies to everyone. And also, to every part of life: physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Until full responsibility is taken, NOTHING will change. And any coaching from anyone won’t last. It wasn’t until I took this step that things began to change. Now, here’s a success tip: take what I’ve just said and put it to use. If I had done this sooner, I would be MUCH further along on my journey than I currently am. 😊
What is the difference between being coachable and teachable? I had to learn this. You can learn information. That is being teachable. But being coachable is different. Having knowledge is great! But using it is totally different. Taking information and learning to apply it in practical ways takes being coachable.
In October and November of 2019, I did some soul searching to decide what I wanted my life to look like going forward. And make some drastic changes in my life. This goes into the next step that Reggie does with his clients. Determine the goals they want. And write down in as much detail as possible WHY I wanted to accomplish each goal. One thing I’ve done is to get HYPER-FOCUSED. Meaning EVERY single goal, I have is connected to the other goals. I have goals in business and in my personal life. But for success to be achieved in 1 area, it has to be achieved in the other. Reggie taught me in that chapter “The more emotion attached to that goal, the greater chance of accomplishing it. I want them to be able to read “why” on a daily basis.” By having my goals tied into each other, I’m attaching emotion to it. I’m pursuing what Reggie calls the “Lavalicious Lifestyle.” This is simply a lifestyle that allows me to work and play on my terms.
My daily actions are a critical component to what I’m pursuing. I have certain things I have to do each day, week, and month to get what I want faster than I have. But, along the way: I have rewards lined up. Things as simple as a drink from a local coffee shop to a cruise later this year. Plus, blessing others in HUGE ways. To me: that is a reward! I love blessing others! It’s fun!
Next, accountability partners. Studies have shown that having an accountability partner increases the odds of success in MASSIVE ways. I’ve used Reggie as my accountability partner, kind of at first inadvertently, but now on purpose for years. And that leads to my final point on today’s post. Having an accountability partner is critical! Without one: the odds of being successful are SLIM. Reggie said this in his chapter: “This is someone that they are going to share their activities and results with on a regular basis.” Having Reggie as my accountability partner doesn’t mean that he “micromanages” every part of my life. But it does mean that he has “permission” to call me out when I’m not doing what I need to do. An accountability partner needs to be able to keep secrets and be supportive. Reggie also said “And you don’t want someone who is going to kick you while you are down and give you 100 reasons why you are not going to accomplish your goals. So, there has to be a lot of thought and consideration going into picking a great accountability partner.”
Reggie also said this within this chapter. And it’s worth sharing.
“See It: – I teach them how to visualize the outcome of their goals. To visually meditate in as much detail as possible their lifestyle – once they accomplish their goals.
Say It: – I help them write down positive affirmations that they will see and say, several times a day. I even encourage them to record themselves reading those affirmations so they can listen to them as much as possible. yes, I could do a recording for them in my voice and make more money for the service. But, without going into why, there is more power to your affirmations when you hear them in your own voice.
Be It: – Then I have them commit in writing to me and to their accountability partner, that they are going to follow through with their plan, no matter what it takes, for as long as it takes. They are not going to stop “three feet from gold.””
Like I’ve said: this is a book I suggest everyone read: Here’s the link to it on Amazon. Think and Grow Rich Today