Tag: success

Two People

Two People

She was raised in an environment where criticism was a constant factor. And as she grew up she became pessimistic and doubted that anything good would happen for her. But she made the decision to overcome the odds and become positive. She began to surround herself with positive people who spoke life into her weary body and mind. Over time her life changed. And as it changed she became a leader. And in spite of her early life, she beat the odds and changed thousands of lives as a result.
She was raised in an environment that was also critical. And as she grew up he became pessimistic and critical. She never realized that by changing her mindset and making the decision to change the outcome of her life, her life would change. Because of her mindset, her marriage fell apart, her children separated themselves from her, and she spoke words that would lead to an early death. And as a result, she passed away much too soon. Who knows what would have happened had she decided to find a better way.
You can choose to have problems or leadership building exercises. Your choice.

negative mind



Can’t or Won’t?

This is from a blog I did a few years ago. But with some of the conversations I’ve had this week, it is time for a repost.

Hardest lesson to learn for anything you want to do and be successful at: moving past the “I Can’t ____” mentality! If you think you can or you think you can’t: you are right! Move past the I can’t mentality! You can do whatever you set your mind to! Get the word “can’t” out of your vocabulary. A better choice is I won’t! So maybe you are saying I can’t because I don’t know how. Well, learn! If you want to learn something bad enough you will find a way!

Since I orginally posted this back in 2014, I have

  • graduated from college with honors (my final GPA was 3.72!)
  • survived being hit by a car (and I was in school at the time),
  • started training in martial arts,
  • started connecting with the world’s best in leaders who are very directly guiding my life to the next level,
  • started walking out my faith more actively
  • starting taking risks that I never would have considered

The list could go on. But I want to make this point: I have done all this with the support only of my friends and some of my family. Mostly my friends.

you can do it



How Do YOU View the World???

This is a story from my dojo. And it’s worth reposting.

We have, for the most part, the feelings we choose to have.

Please don’t be angry with me if you prefer to be tragic. I do not deny you this choice. I deny only that you have no escape.

Our feelings in the first moment are triggered by our circumstances. Happy news. Sad news. News that makes us angry. But in the second moment, and the third, our feelings are the product of our chosen perspective.

What angle of view do you choose when you examine the day that lies ahead of you and all the days that lie behind? What is your perspective? Where do you aim your eyes? What produce do you grow in the soil of your imagination and the sunshine of your life?

Jeanne Hébuterne was a 19 year-old art student in 1917 who fell deeply in love with a dashing Italian artist named Amedeo Modigliani. A year later, their daughter was born out of wedlock and the Hébuterne family was horrified. When that little girl was 2, Modigliani died. The next day Jeanne Hébuterne threw herself out a fifth-story window. She was only 22 years old.

Modigliani’s sister adopted the little girl and raised her as her own.

The girl inherited no art. She died in 1984.

What do you suppose the little girl felt as she was growing up? Did she say,

“My father was an alcoholic, drug-addicted loon who refused to marry my mother when she became pregnant and my mother did not love me enough to raise me. She killed herself the day after my father died.”

Persons who would choose this perspective, and the feelings that accompany it, always say they are being “honest and realistic.”

But is that really true?

Would this perspective be any less honest or realistic?

“My father was an artist whose paintings of my mother sell for many tens of millions of dollars. My mother was so deeply in love that she literally could not live without him. I am the product of that love.”

I do not know what the little girl chose to think, and feel, and believe.

I know only that she had a choice.

As do you.


I’m just getting started! HELP!

I’m just getting started! HELP!

What do you do when you are getting started on changing your life? Well, I’m still learning (by the way, so are the top leaders I’m connected to like Tony & Sarah Zolecki, Reggie Cochran, and Justin Prince!). What do they do (and I’ve adopted as a result of their leadership in my life) to get where they are?

DMO, BABY, DMO! But maybe you don’t know what this is? DMO is an acronym for:

  • Daily
  • Method of
  • Operations

What do you do each day? What the most successful leaders do is break it down each day to a to-do list. And their list includes these things:

  • Eating healthy!
  • Focusing on a single goal, and write it out (67% of the wealthy do this compared to 11% of poor)
  • Exercise
  • Listen to audio books
  • Maintain a to-do list
  • Call (or use messenger) and wish their friends and loved ones a happy birthday verbally.
  • Read for 30 minutes or more daily for education or career reasons
  • They are careful as to when they speak their mind. When they speak their mind: people listen!
  • Limited TV! They rarely watch trash tv (ie: reality tv)
  • Rise early and get started right on their day right away. Justin has some great tips on this by the way! Want to talk to him? Connect to me on Facebook and I’ll connect you to him.
  • Avoid toxic people, these are people who have habits that you don’t want to have. And as you do this,  you will find that the bad habits we all have will slowly (or in some cases quickly) will decrease. We are all growing. No condemnation here.
  • They don’t give up! Quitting isn’t an option! If something doesn’t work, they try another way!
  • Something I’ve noticed too: They are CONSISTENT! Tony Zolecki said on a live broadcast last night that the reason people don’t see success is because they quit! I’m doing these blogs and lives for this 100 days to become consistent. And it’s because I have not been consistent and I’m doing what it takes to change this.

All these things apply to every area of your life! Personal and professional. Are you happy, no, THRILLED  with the life you have? If yes, GREAT! If not: let’s talk!

Let’s work together and develop a life you are THRILLED with! Remember: NOTHING is impossible with God!

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Grandmaster Jhoon Rhee, Father of American Tae Kwon Do

Grandmaster Jhoon Rhee, Father of American Tae Kwon Do

On April 30, 2018 the world lost a visionary. I never had the opportunity to meet him. But he impacted my life in ways I am just now beginning to realize. He was the Father of American Tae Kwon Do. His work will last for generations to come. In his family, students, his friends and those like me who follow him. Some of the people I have the most respect for and call my friends, such as Dr. Ted Gambordella, were at his funeral a few days ago. One thing that I saw was he did 1,000 push-ups a day.

Grandmaster Rhee, Father of American Tae Kwon Do. But so much more! He was a visionary. Something I see in the most successful leaders I know. He knew at a young age living in Korea that he wanted to live in America, he knew he wanted to open martial arts schools. He wanted to develop character in youth. He taught that martial arts isn’t just about kicking and punching. It’s about an underlying philosophy and discipline. Some of the things he accomplished are these:

  • Invented safety equipment that keeps competitors safe in tournaments
  • Wrote a five-volume series of books on Tae Kwon Do
  • Stared in the 1973 movie “When Taekwondo Strikes”
  • He was named “Martial Arts Man of the Century” in 1976
  • Developed martial arts ballet, which is now in Europe & Russia. One of the songs used in this is Star Spangled Banner.
  • Was instrumental in having taekwondo being in the Olympics. I found this in Black Belt Magazine about Ambassador’s children being taught tae kwon do:

“After a few years, they saw the results. As the various ambassadors’ tenure expired, they had to return to their homelands. Many asked me to share my instructors and teach them in their countries. I didn’t have enough instructors to go around, so I introduced them to my classmates from the 1940s, several of whom traveled to their countries to teach. These instructors would then introduce taekwondo to neighboring countries. The training of ambassadors’ family members would happen again and again as they came and went from Washington.” The result: More than 179 countries now have access to taekwondo instruction, which is why it was accepted into the Olympics.”

Grandmaster Rhee spoke on April 10, 2007 to the United Nations on Mending Our Troubled World with Martial Arts Philosophy of Action. In that speech, he talked about needing a vision. He also spoke about education. One thing that stands out is something that I see in all the martial arts leaders I know and respect: lead by example and never fail to correct students’ mistakes with a smile-not until they learn but until they develop a habit or skill.

Finally, his 7 qualities of a champion that he said applied to business and personal life both:

  1. Patience
  2. Speed
  3. Timing
  4. Power
  5. Balance
  6. Flexibility
  7. And good posture.

Unlike most of my blog posts, which I speak from personal knowledge on or else speak from something I learned recently from school or a recent lesson and then repost it here, this one I wrote and researched simultaneously on. Grandmaster Jhoon Rhee was an amazing visionary. Without a doubt, if he had not done the work that he did, our world would be dramatically different. He will always have my complete respect. Oss, Sir. May your memory and qualities you held most dear always be remembered by your family, friends, students, and fans.

An Action is worth 1000 pictures

Enter INTO the HOUSE!

Enter INTO the HOUSE!

I have spent the past 4 days taking some much-needed time away from Facebook and yesterday I got a picture of something that you need to see.

Everything we pray for is possible. Jesus said: with man, this is IMPOSSIBLE! But with GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE! (Matthew 19: 26) Everything we pray for is covered by a piece of property. I want you to imagine a house that you can see has a party going on inside it. And you want to join it. But it has a metal gate around it. And the only way to walk through the gate is for someone to open it from the inside.

Forgiveness of our sins is the gate. We walk through the gate by asking Jesus for forgiveness. And we open the door to the house by asking for the gift of the Holy Spirit. Many people have entered the house. But don’t get completely filled with the Holy Spirit. Many think that the Holy Spirit’s job is to convict of sin. And that is certainly part of it. But that isn’t all! Praise God!!! There is much more.

From the big room, which has many people around walking around forgiven of their sins, are very sick people. And many broke people as well. This is most of the body of Christ. But as you walk around, you notice 2 other doors and decide to explore what is there. The doors are easily opened. There is no lock or even a door handle to have to use.

You see one person who is sick go into one of those doors. A short time later you see this same person come out and he is healed. But still has evidence of the fact that he was sick. A little while later another person goes in that door in a wheelchair and she stays in longer and when she comes out, she is no longer in the wheelchair and looked completely whole. Not just healed, but she is made whole! No evidence of ever being sick!

You have been battling a sickness and decide to explore this room and see what happens. As you walk through this door, you immediately feel healthy and see others coming in and out. But most only accept healing. But you want more. So, you look around. And see another door. You go through that door and see Jesus Himself. And He takes you from being healed to being made completely whole. No evidence of ever being sick. He replaces body parts that were missing, he removes all the evidence that you were ever sick. And afterward: you spend time just resting with Him and praising Him.

When you leave that room, you decide to explore the rest of the house. You want to know what else is around. You see pictures on the walls of many people. And someone suddenly is walking with you, but you don’t know who is at first. But then you realize it is the Holy Spirit. And He guides you into the truth.

He guides you into another room. And this room has money in it. You see people taking what they need, but no more. And they are content, but not joyful. You get the feeling that they are only getting enough to get their basic needs met. But like the other room, you wonder if there is more. That is when the Holy Spirit points out another door. This room is only accessible for those who seek God first. Which you have been doing.

In this room, you meet Jesus again. And He asks you what you want. And you remember that nothing is impossible with Jesus. So, you get bold. And you ask for a house that is paid for. And a new car. He says ok. Because Jesus knows you are wanting to help more people than your current house can allow for. You also ask for enough furniture to have place for travelers to stay with you. So, you can bless them. You ask for a career where you can bless people. He says ok. You ask for peace. And again, He says ok. You ask for a certain relationship to be reconciled. Again: he says ok.

And this is when you realize that NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE WITH JESUS. And a boldness rises in you and you ask Jesus to bless you more, so you can be a blessing to others. And even to surprise you along the way and since you are not doubting He will do it: you know it will come to pass.

Believers have access to everything, but only a few know it. And among those who know it: only a few accept it.