Tag: Purpose



A saying I’ve heard many times over the years is only partially correct. “Bloom where you are planted.” The implied meaning is that I should be content where I am. But what if you aren’t content? Do you stay put?

I’m not where I was 10 years ago. Neither are you. We all change, we grow for the better or for the worse. I’ve got people in my life who have changed in both ways.

I just started reading a book a few minutes ago that I am going to be telling EVERYONE to read. It’s called Mind Capture, Volume 3. It is directed at entrepreneurs. The subtitle is “HOW TO AWAKEN YOUR ENTREPRENEURAL GENIUS IN A TIME OF GREAT ECONOMIC CHANGE.”

I am captivated by this book! I have not read the first 2 volumes, but after I read this one: I will be. Tony is a new friend of mine on Facebook and someone I can’t wait to meet in person.

What stands out for me so far is a sentence in the first paragraph of the introduction. “Why do so many people continue to buy into all the fear-based talk and thinking running rampant throughout society?”

Tony Rubleski with the book I’m reading 

I want to challenge you to get this book. I included the link to it above in the title of it. It is a game changer. For the next few weeks I am going to be talking about changing your mind and your mindset to have a better life. And how “blooming where you’re planted” isn’t a good idea, unless you are part of minority that lives what my friend Reggie calls the Lavalicious Lifestyle.

This is important, my friends. Here is the link to it again: Mind Capture, Volume 3. Let me know if you get it. I would love to know!

Parents and Children

Parents and Children

Warning: this will upset some people. But I am more concerned with our kids and their future than the  people who get upset with me on this post today.

Iowa obesity rate:
Adults: 32% (#13 in the nation)
Youth 10-17 y/o: 29.9% (#30 in the nation)

Does this get your attention? Or does this get your attention more?…


  • Colorado has the lowest obesity rate at 22.3%
  • West Virginia has the highest obesity rate at 37.7%.
  • All other states range from 22.6% to 37.3%.

The top 5 worst states are:

  • West Virginia
  • Mississippi
  • Alabama
  • Arkansas
  • and Louisiana

Now what about kids between 10 and 17?

  • Utah is the best at 19.2%
  • Tennessee is the worst at 37.7%
  • All other states range from 20.3% to 37.1%.

For our kids,  the top 5 worst states are:

  • Tennessee
  • North Dakota
  • Mississippi
  • Florida
  • and Rhode Island

I want your help. What needs to be done to lower the obesity rate? More government intervention? Or can parent’s do more? I read this in one of  my text books:

“In one study, parental obesity doubled the risk of adult obesity for both obese and non-obese children less than 10 years of age.” (Brown, 327)

Parent’s have control over what is brought into the home! Schools are told what to serve for lunches by the government.

Brown, Judith E. Nutrition Through the Life Cycle, 5th Edition. Cengage Learning, 20130625. VitalBook file.

The statistics from above were found at this website: State of Obesity. You can  look up the numbers for your state from it.


Do you have a Spirit of Excellence???

Do you have a Spirit of Excellence???

Scrolling on Facebook I see so much negative. The news is mostly negative. Proverbs says as a man thinks…so is he! There is a spirit of UNEXCELLENCE in the world today. And it is impacting the entire world! It is impacting families in dramatic ways.

But there are a few others…those who have a spirit of excellence. They expect good things to happen. And they just don’t entertain the possibility of bad things coming their way.

I am this way.

No matter what may happen, I know good things are coming my way every day. I just expect it.

I have been told that I’m unrealistic to always expect good things.

I was hit by a car on Dec. 13, 2016 while walking. I was given all kinds of advice, 99% of it I rejected! I kept doing what was hard. I stayed in school. On that night, I was supposed to turn in an assignment. I contacted my professor and told her I had been hit by a car but that I was going to turn in my assignment. Because I contacted her and turned it in on time, I got a perfect score on it.

That term: I got an A in both classes. I did this even though I had a cast on my hand, plus a concussion. If you expect good things, you will find favor in  unexpected ways and from unexpected places.



So, Martial Arts Can’t Change A Family?

So, Martial Arts Can’t Change A Family?

I have a young friend who last year decided she wanted to get healthy. She will not be named because of her age, but I am going to call her Andi. Andi is 16 now and a year ago was wearing a size 28. Her parent’s (who are friends of mine) also have battled weight problems. Andi lives in a small town in western Texas. Last year before I was in the accident Andi decided to take control of her health and get healthy even without her parent’s help or support. She came to me to ask for help, knowing I am studying nutrition at Kaplan.
Andi and I spent some time talking about her like, dislikes, hobbies, and other things related to her entire life. I learned she likes martial arts movies and other action movies. She also likes to watch tv shows like “Dancing With the Stars.” Like many teenagers who battle weight issues she struggled with low self-esteem, depression, lack of confidence, and other problems. In response to learning this, I gave her some advice such as eating more vegetables, and work on portion control. I also told her to talk to her doctor and to get a full blood work-up. To get her lipids and other blood levels checked. Which she did and then gave it to me.
But I also encouraged her to get involved with activities that would get her moving. Andi chose 2 activities and got a couple of her friends to support her. One is martial arts. She chose Tai Kwon Do, because there is a dojo walking distance from her school. She is now a green belt and determined to reach black belt before she graduates from high school. She also began to take dance lessons and is loving it. But how has martial arts changed her family?
About 3 months after beginning the lessons and making changes in her eating habits, her parent’s decided to join her. Andi now Andi does all the cooking and her parent’s are loving the new eating habits. Andi also has a younger sister who is 8 and also started Tai Kwon Do. Andi’s little sister I will call Summer. Summer has never had a weight problem. And because of the lifestyle changes initiated by Andi, she likely never will.
As of about a week ago,  Andi now is at a size 18 and plans to be at a size 16 before her prom in April. Plus she has her first boyfriend who is completely supportive of what she is doing. Andi after high school is considering becoming a dietician or a health coach.
And has decided that martial arts will remain a permanent part of her life. Her parent’s and sister are loving martial arts and are planning to continue in it as well. Andi attributes the biggest change because of the mindset she has because of martial arts.
Just something to think about.
Credit to the “parent/child” picture goes to my friend Professor David Dunn. His website is Premier Martial Arts, Santa Clarita Valley, California. Professor  Dunn  is one of the leaders for UFAF, or the United Fighting Arts Federation. The same group I am part of with Top Form Karate & Fitness. UFAF has a network of schools all over the country. Look at the website for UFAF to find a school near you. Or, you can do like I’m doing and use the Top Form Online School. In the few weeks I’ve done this, I have already passed my first test, which is a written test. And I will test for Gold belt in a few weeks.



  • Sensei,
  • Master/Mr./Ms./Mrs.
  • Bowing as you enter or leave the room
  • Bowing to the instructor
  • Before and after doing a kata (special thanks to my friend Renshi John Morgan Hamilton for this part)

These are all used to show respect in martial arts. I have noticed that respect is lacking in many families as well as in schools. Webster’s 1828 dictionary says that respect “regards the qualities of the mind, or the actions which characterize those qualities.”

Another website Babin’s Martial Arts said this about respect regarding martial arts: “Respect means “taking someone else’s feelings, needs, thoughts and ideas into consideration”.   It means treating people, places, and things like they are special.  It also means admiring others and honoring their wishes and knowledge.  And finally, when dealing with others, you take their position into account.”

Think about someone you know who is respectful. Doors just seem to open for them. They are just blessed more. And life is just easier for them. The youth who is respectful gets better grades in school and has more friends. Leaders command respect. And it is because they are respectful.

Billy Graham

But now think about someone who is not respectful: how is life for them? Easy or hard? What kind of friends do they have? How are they perceived in the community they live in?

Respect is something that is earned.  But sadly, in many societies today this is something rarely seen. But it should be changed. And it can be. Respect is required in Japan by society. So, it can be taught. One of the biggest lessons my Grandpa Boyles and Grandpa Elkins taught me growing up is that we should always be respectful. It is a lesson that is sadly lacking today. But in dojo’s around the country: it is being taught. So, we do have hope.



What is YOUR mindset???

What is YOUR mindset???

Mindset: an attitude, disposition, or mood. And, an intention or inclination. 

With this in mind: how do you keep your mindset positive? What are some actions you can take to have a positive attitude, disposition, or mood? How do you keep your intentions and inclinations going the right direction?

Here are some things I have done to keep positive:

  1. Start my day off right. I do daily affirmations. Then I eat breakfast. Then I exercise, these days by training in the Chuck Norris System.
  2. During the day, if a negative thought comes up (and it happens), I replace it with something positive.
  3. If I get hit with bad news, I find something positive in it. It’s the idea that there is a silver lining in every cloud. It’s not always easy to find, but it is there. For example, Las Vegas was hit by a shooter overnight last night. That is a bad thing. But I’m thankful that more people weren’t killed. This doesn’t mean I’m not sorry for the losses. I am very sorry about it. And I did cry over it.
  4. If I get frustrated, I practice martial arts or do something that gets me moving. As I exercise, I am able to literally work-out my frustrations. And then I go back and finish whatever I was working on. Whether it is school or my business or something else.

How do I keep my intentions positive?

  1. I stay focused on my goals. And review them frequently to make sure they are where they need to be at.
  2. I stay connected to my leaders and give them the freedom to speak whatever needs to be said, either good or bad, to me.
  3. I make sure that I am worthy in my own actions to be a leader. I can’t expect anyone to follow me if I am not actively doing what I would expect others to do. I am a leader, not a boss. And I keep this in the forefront of my mind.

What are some things you do?



So, living in abundance is bad?

So, living in abundance is bad?

Says who? The bible gets twisted a lot! It how “religious laws” get developed. We’ve all played a game where one person tells a second person a secret and then that person tells it to a 3rd person and it goes on to every person in the game. By the time that secret goes through everyone in the game, the secret is not at all what has happened from the original secret. Here is a twist on this: 1 Timothy chapter 6 verse 10. It has been twised from the original text and it has been twisted and some people have decided that walking in abundance is a bad thing. I want to challenge that today.

1 Timothy chapter 6 verse 10 says in the New International Version “For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.” Some people have interpreted this to mean that money is bad and having too much is a bad thing.

But, look at what this same verse says in the Amplified version of the bible: “For the love of money [that is, the greedy desire for it and the willingness to gain it unethically] is a root of all sorts of evil, and some by longing for it have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves [through and through] with many sorrows.”  I think this gives a different twist to this same passage.

If someone has a lot of money they have choices to make. They can love the money and having it and essentially be a modern-day Ebenezer Scrooge or they can be like Reggie Cochran and be among the most giving people. I can easily replace Reggie’s name with Tony & Sarah Zolecki, Rick & Michelle Teague, John & Nadya Melton, Justin Prince, Gena Norris, Dr. Ted Gambordella or several other friends I have.

What makes them different? And why are they walking in abundance? What makes them different from people who are rich but give a bad “taste in other’s mouths” when it comes to money?

The people I’ve got who are friends who literally walk in abundance gained their abundance ethically. They did it by working smart and following biblical principles. If you want to walk in abundance, I encourage you to see what the bible says about money and by doing it. Here is a list to start with:

  • Seek God first (Matthew 6:33, 2 Chronicles 31:20-21, Psalm 1:1-3)
  • Dwell in His presence which means you must trust Him (Psalm 16:11, James 1:5-7, Matthew 6: 31-33, Psalm 37: 3-5, 11)
  • Realize that the devil is the thief and he came to steal, kill, and destroy. (John 10:10)
  • Realize if you have Jesus and the Holy Spirit, you are a child of God and have all the rights and privileges of being a child of God, that includes abundance. (John 1:12)
  • Be a giver. (Luke 6:38 and Malachi 3:10-12, Proverbs 10:22, Proverbs 3:9-10, Deuteronomy 8:17-18, Proverbs 11:25, 2 Corinthians 9:6-7)
  • Realize that God gives good things. (James 1:17)
  • Be diligent (Deuteronomy 28:1-2, Proverbs 13:4)
  • Seek righteousness (Psalm 37:25-26, Proverbs 8:18-21)
  • Keep His commandments which means to walk in His ways. (Psalm 23:1, 1 Kings 2:3, Psalm 84:11-12, Leviticus 26:3-5)

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