Tag: Motivation

Martial Arts: In 10 Days!

Martial Arts: In 10 Days!

In 10 days, I’ve got a final doctor appoint for a broken hand which has put me on the sidelines from martial arts since last December. During this time, I’ve made a very conscious decision that when I get cleared from my doctor to go back that I would not quit. Ever. I absolutely love studying martial arts. I also love the friends I’ve made in this arena.

Friends like Dan Ross who practices Tae Kwon Do, Chinese Kempo and Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, Debbie Goodman who does Kung Fu and Tai Chi plus she added that she will hang out at her friend’s schools and practice whatever they are doing.

One of my closest friends is named Bob Judd. He does Shotokan, Shuri Ryu, Dux Ryu, Tang Soo Do, Tae Kwon Do, and good old-fashioned street fighting.

My friend Amanda Meeks has done Hapkido and Tae Kwon Do. Reggie Cochran is one of the leaders for Chuck Norris System.

  • Tang Soo Do
  • Karate
  • Muay Thai
  • Mixed Martial Arts
  • Judo
  • Krav Maga
  • Aikido

In total, there are over 150 different styles of martial arts. To see a more comprehensive list, check out this link: Martial Arts Styles. I would also encourage you to follow my amazing friend Andrea Harkins  on her blog to learn more about this amazing activity.

In coming weeks, on Saturday’s I’ll talk further about this. If you have any questions about this, comment here or message me on Facebook. This applies to anything I post on this blog. If I don’t have an answer, I will find out what it is.

MA Not fighting



Dream on, don’t stop.

Don’t give up, keep on going,

You can do this.

I gave up once, but then…

New friends,

New leaders,

They became one…

My friends are my leaders


When your friends become your leaders

You discover a drive that wasn’t there before!

It comes from their heart to yours

You wouldn’t want to let them down

So, you can’t quit!

In this you discover a love for something

And within that love you get a drive that pushes you further than you ever thought possible.


It becomes a part of you.

You can’t quit dreaming,

You dream more

                And bigger




9 Points for a Solid Game Plan!

9 Points for a Solid Game Plan!

Last night I was on a call with my amazing friend & leader: Tony Zolecki who is an amazing husband, father, visionary, and friend and servant leader to everyone who knows him. He told 9 points for setting up a strategy that will lead you to success. His 9 points were well worth repeating.

  1. There is no losing! You are either winning or learning!
  2. You gotta commit to the skills. Learn less, study more. Learn a skill, master it, then apply it!
    1. Habits: Form new habits and become their slaves! (Og Mandino)
  3. Learn a baseline behavior. Move forward.
    1. Get out of I should and move into I must!
  4. Associations & environments: raise your standard! Surround yourself with excellence! Position yourself! Get around people who are striving for excellence. Feed your mind with positivity!
  5. Give yourself radical permission to think bigger! Your potential is limitless! But you have to step into it! Each night ask yourself: What percentage are you operating at? How can you get better? Ignore the masses! Think bigger!
  6. Do the high income producing activities! If you want to know what they are, let’s talk.
  7. Let it go! Don’t hold on to old hurts. Don’t allow others to control your happiness. Make a list of the things that are holding you back. Look at it. Address it. Then let it go! And replace it with the positive!
  8. Create a crazy vision! The one that makes people go wow! And make it crystal clear! If you can see it, you can do it.
  9. Create your game plan! What do you need to do? What does your team need to do? Get some discipline and make the time!


Og Mandino

Being QuitProof!

Being QuitProof!

My amazing friend, Tom Jones, is “QuitProof”  I met him through another amazing friend, Dr. Reggie Cochran (who I call “Reg” most of the time). They both exemplify what it means to be Quitproof. These two amazing men don’t quit! This applies to all of my friends who are leaders in martial arts, network marketing, and in school.

Over the weekend I was asked a question that I had a very simple comeback to. “What if reaching black belt wasn’t an option?” My response was “that isn’t an option.” I don’t quit. My response was quick and natural. After that brief conversation, and after thinking about it, I realized that this applies to every area of my life. What makes me any different than you?

I’m not any different! Except that I follow a very simple law in my life from John C. Maxwell: The Law of Victory. This says that anything less than success is unacceptable. And they have no Plan B.  I don’t have a plan b for any of the plans I have. So, success is the only option.

When you decide that success is the only option, you become Quitproof. And quitting doesn’t even enter as a possibility. Jesus said that nothing is impossible. And when you decide that quitting isn’t an option, you will begin to see the impossible become possible.

I’ve not hidden the fact that I am a follower of Christ. Isaiah 55: 10-12 talks about the Law of Victory. Leaders communicate until they see results! I’ve seen this in EVERY leader I know. Both Christians and non-Christians alike. Here’s what it says:

10 “For as the rain comes down, and the snow from heaven,
And do not return there,
But water the earth, (His word will get results!)
And make it bring forth and bud,
That it may give seed to the sower
And bread to the eater, (His Word will furnish tools & resources)

11 So shall My word be that goes forth from My mouth;
It shall not return to Me void,
But it shall accomplish what I please,
And it shall prosper in the thing for which I sent it. (His Word will meet needs)

12 “For you shall go out with joy,
And be led out with peace;
The mountains and the hills
Shall break forth into singing before you,
And all the trees of the field shall clap their hands. (His Word will satisfy the soul of the hearers)

One of the most important lessons I’ve learned over the years is that when you make quitting an option, it gives you a way out. So, simply, don’t give yourself a way out and in doing that you don’t make quitting an option.


Living Clean, in your…

Living Clean, in your…

What does it mean to live clean? Can it be done affordably? One of the most common things I hear is that “I can’t afford to live clean.” My favorite personal care products are affordable. And you can even save $10 on your initial order. At the end of this I’ll tell you how you can even get them for free! (YES, I said FREE!).

But, first, what does it mean to live clean? I define it this way: living in such a way that your mind and body and environment are free from anything dirty or unhealthy. To accomplish this, it is important to pay attention to how you talk, what you eat, drink, and put in or on your body. This also applies to the cleaning products in our homes. A little-known fact is that cleaning products can be absorbed into our skin. So, what we use in our homes is just as important as what we use on our bodies. I’m going to touch on all these areas, but today I’m going to talk about assumptions

Some assumptions are good, but others are bad. I have heard people say things like “I can’t afford to eat organic” or “I think what I’m using is fine” or when it comes to a certain diet, “My doctor wouldn’t approve.”

My question for you is this: Have you shown your doctor what you want to do? Or are you assuming? Based on the people I talk to; my hunch is you are mostly assuming. Sometimes it is okay to assume. We make assumptions all the time. We assume that if we drink alcohol we will get into a car accident. We assume that if we get a college degree we will automatically get a job because of it. We assume if we eat junk food we will be okay. How many other assumptions have you made? I’d love to know. Please, put this in the comments. As you can see here, some assumptions are healthy, such as drinking and driving. But others are not good, such as thinking that eating junk food on a regular basis is okay. You may be okay doing this for a little while, even for several years. But, over time science has shown that this can have a major impact on your health.

Next week I’m going to talk about junk food and healthy alternatives. This will be a follow-up to what I’m talking about on Thursday, which is certain diets. So, you will want to stay tuned!

How to get your cleaning products for free: first: friend me up on Facebook. From there: I will send you a link to save $10 on your first order. After you place your first order my company will give you your own code that you share with your own friends. As you begin to do this, you will earn credits toward your own purchases. You can find me by looking up Malissa Elkins Van Zee.






What do your priorities look like? Do you have things set up correctly? I am a Christian and that does dictate my priorities to a large degree. My priorities are listed this way:

  1. God: If I expect Him to direct my steps then I have to listen to what He says to me.
  2. Myself! Yes, I put myself as a priority. How can I handle anything else if I’m not taking care of myself?
    1. Priority setting. Is what I’m actively doing taking care of me?
    2. Health: Am I eating what I need to eat to be in the best physical shape I can be in?
    3. Exercise: What am I doing on a daily basis to get off the chair/bed/couch?
    4. Mental health: What am I doing to keep my mind healthy?
      1. That includes having some fun! So what am I doing just for fun?
      2. Growing: I am a learner, I love to learn new things! And this is a priority for me. I am also learning to teach others more effectively!
      3. Meditation/relaxation time. This is  a little different than prayer. While I do pray, I  also take time to just rest and quiet my mind and literally do nothing for a few minutes every day.
      4. Positive affirmations: An incredibly important part of my day. I do it typically first thing every morning.
  3. My kids come next. They are still growing up and I make sure they get what they need.
  4. My husband. I’ve been told that I need  to have him over my kids, but circumstances that I won’t tell here dictate that my kids come before him.
  5. My career. I am a writer and an entrepreneur. If I expect my work to be done, I have to make sure that I do the work. I don’t have a boss, except my calendar. If I expect my goals to be met, I have to do the work. In my work time I have certain things that I have to make sure I get done.
    1. Goal setting! I can’t reach goals that haven’t been set.
    2. Writing. I am writing a novel. It won’t write itself, so I have to do the work.
    3. Education: I am expanding what I’m doing. I’m in school at Kaplan University. Study time is important and as such, it is a priority.





By January 31, 2019 I will have my Bachelor’s in Science in Nutrition Science from Kaplan University. This will set me up to be a professional health and wellness coach. I will be providing services to anyone whether they can afford a coach or not. My business already has a name also! But that will be private for a little while.  What I just wrote out is my vision. Proverbs 29:18 says “Without vision, people perish.”

Do you have a vision for your life? Do you know what you want? Your imagination is your vision. There is no right or wrong on this. It is simply: what do you want? If you could do ANYTHING in your life, what would it be? Don’t be afraid to dream to big. I was told a few years ago, by Reggie Cochran that the only difference between dreaming big and dreaming small is the amount of action steps it will take to make it a reality.

You may have a dream to get out of debt. And that is good. But what is better is to get out of debt and have a $1,000,000 in the bank. What would this do for you personally? What would this do for your family? What would this do for your neighborhood/community? Don’t be afraid to dream bigger than you’ve been told you should!

So, call to action: what do you want to do? Contact me and let’s talk and make your dream a reality!