Tag: Motivation

What To Expect…

What To Expect…

Losing weight is a huge deal! I want to show you 25 things that will happen as  you lose weight:

  1. Muscle gain vs. fat loss
  • The weight itself may or may not change much. But it’s because muscle weights more than fat. For that reason, it is better to measure your weight loss with a cloth measuring “stick” instead of the scale.
  • You may feel chilly because of your thyroid hormone levels can dip, keep a cardigan handy.

2. Allergy symptoms, such as asthma symptoms may decrease. Do not quit prescription meds without your doctor’s approval. He will support this.

3. Your face may slim down

4. Food will taste better.

5. You may be hornier as your BMI dips, your testosterone levels rise. Which makes you less self-conscious.

6. Sex may be more satisfying.

7. You may not know what to wear. Get some friends to go shopping with you. This is especially true for people who have battled obesity most of their lives.

8. You may not feel happy. Get help if you need it. Some people do feel happy over the weight loss.

9. Muscle vs. fat and how to gain muscle while losing fat.

10. Family and friends may criticize you. Ignore them.

11. Some may not notice. Until you lose 9 lbs. it’s not very noticeable.

12. You’ll stop snoring.

13. “According to a study in the journal Neurology, heavier men have poorer memories and cognitive skills than trimmer men.”

14. You will love to sweat! “Progress is addicting.”

15. It will impact your kids! And they will want to eat healthier.

16. Your significant other may not be supportive. Be aware of it. I experienced this and pushed through it.  You can do it!

17. Over time, he or she may join you. I experienced this too.

18. I was lead to this because people began to come to me for advice.

19. Rings may need to be resized.

20. You may need new shoes! You do have fat in your feet and as you lose weight, the fat in your feet will also go down.

21. People may not recognize you. Especially if they haven’t seen you in a while.

22. You will find out who your real friends are. And you will make new friends connected to your new life.

23. You’ll lose your sweet tooth!

24. You’ll save money on prescription medications. “The lighter you are, the healthier you’re apt to be. And in many cases, that means saying sayonara to high blood pressure pills and diabetes medications. Dropping weight also lowers the odds your need medications in the future, too! That’s good news for your body and your bank account.”

25. You’ll cook healthier and become a better chef.

And a bonus: “A leaner you = a longer life. But hey, you probably already knew that.”

 

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Lessons from Martial Arts, School and Network Marketing

Lessons from Martial Arts, School and Network Marketing

As we draw near to the end of 2017 and head into 2018 I have been reflecting on what I have learned this year.

  1. If you are going to take the time to do something, drop excuses and find a way to be as successful at it as you want to be. In martial arts, that means going for black belt. In school, that means setting aside time to study and get the assignments done to the best of your ability. And in network marketing, it means turning to your leaders and getting help to learn what it takes to be successful. And then doing it.
  2. It’s okay to take a step back in any of these areas and re-visit why you’re doing it. In school, it’s okay to take the summer off. But if you do this, make sure you have a plan in place to go back and know when this will happen.
  3. Losses can be turned into lessons if you decide to find a way to learn from them.
  4. When bad things happen, you can decide to quit. But you can also decide that you will rise above it and do what you dream of.
  5. It’s okay to dream.
  6. It’s even better to take those dreams and work toward them becoming a reality.
  7. We all have three decisions to make to make those dreams a reality:
    1. Walk toward them. Meaning go forward, but do it cautiously. This is often based on fear. Don’t be afraid to go after what you want.
    2. You could trot. You know, take a faster pace toward what you want. This is knowing what you want. And even making some gentle steps toward making them a reality. But still some fear is there.
    3. But then there’s a third option. And this is the decision I’ve made. This is where you decide to run toward what you want. This may be reaching black belt, or it may be taking some classes toward improving your life. Or any of many things. Your imagination is the limit.
  8. Allow your imagination to run wild. Don’t be afraid to dream. And don’t be afraid to chase those dreams. No matter what others may say. As long as they don’t hurt others.
  9. When naysayers come along, don’t allow them to steal your dreams. And in their place, find some people who will encourage your dreams.
  10. Finally, take a stand for what you want: toward yourself. Sometimes we can be our own biggest naysayers. Love yourself enough to go for what you want.

Dream Big

Blooming?

Blooming?

A saying I’ve heard many times over the years is only partially correct. “Bloom where you are planted.” The implied meaning is that I should be content where I am. But what if you aren’t content? Do you stay put?

I’m not where I was 10 years ago. Neither are you. We all change, we grow for the better or for the worse. I’ve got people in my life who have changed in both ways.

I just started reading a book a few minutes ago that I am going to be telling EVERYONE to read. It’s called Mind Capture, Volume 3. It is directed at entrepreneurs. The subtitle is “HOW TO AWAKEN YOUR ENTREPRENEURAL GENIUS IN A TIME OF GREAT ECONOMIC CHANGE.”

I am captivated by this book! I have not read the first 2 volumes, but after I read this one: I will be. Tony is a new friend of mine on Facebook and someone I can’t wait to meet in person.

What stands out for me so far is a sentence in the first paragraph of the introduction. “Why do so many people continue to buy into all the fear-based talk and thinking running rampant throughout society?”

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Tony Rubleski with the book I’m reading 

I want to challenge you to get this book. I included the link to it above in the title of it. It is a game changer. For the next few weeks I am going to be talking about changing your mind and your mindset to have a better life. And how “blooming where you’re planted” isn’t a good idea, unless you are part of minority that lives what my friend Reggie calls the Lavalicious Lifestyle.

This is important, my friends. Here is the link to it again: Mind Capture, Volume 3. Let me know if you get it. I would love to know!

Do you have a Spirit of Excellence???

Do you have a Spirit of Excellence???

Scrolling on Facebook I see so much negative. The news is mostly negative. Proverbs says as a man thinks…so is he! There is a spirit of UNEXCELLENCE in the world today. And it is impacting the entire world! It is impacting families in dramatic ways.

But there are a few others…those who have a spirit of excellence. They expect good things to happen. And they just don’t entertain the possibility of bad things coming their way.

I am this way.

No matter what may happen, I know good things are coming my way every day. I just expect it.

I have been told that I’m unrealistic to always expect good things.

I was hit by a car on Dec. 13, 2016 while walking. I was given all kinds of advice, 99% of it I rejected! I kept doing what was hard. I stayed in school. On that night, I was supposed to turn in an assignment. I contacted my professor and told her I had been hit by a car but that I was going to turn in my assignment. Because I contacted her and turned it in on time, I got a perfect score on it.

That term: I got an A in both classes. I did this even though I had a cast on my hand, plus a concussion. If you expect good things, you will find favor in  unexpected ways and from unexpected places.

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So, Martial Arts Can’t Change A Family?

So, Martial Arts Can’t Change A Family?

I have a young friend who last year decided she wanted to get healthy. She will not be named because of her age, but I am going to call her Andi. Andi is 16 now and a year ago was wearing a size 28. Her parent’s (who are friends of mine) also have battled weight problems. Andi lives in a small town in western Texas. Last year before I was in the accident Andi decided to take control of her health and get healthy even without her parent’s help or support. She came to me to ask for help, knowing I am studying nutrition at Kaplan.
Andi and I spent some time talking about her like, dislikes, hobbies, and other things related to her entire life. I learned she likes martial arts movies and other action movies. She also likes to watch tv shows like “Dancing With the Stars.” Like many teenagers who battle weight issues she struggled with low self-esteem, depression, lack of confidence, and other problems. In response to learning this, I gave her some advice such as eating more vegetables, and work on portion control. I also told her to talk to her doctor and to get a full blood work-up. To get her lipids and other blood levels checked. Which she did and then gave it to me.
But I also encouraged her to get involved with activities that would get her moving. Andi chose 2 activities and got a couple of her friends to support her. One is martial arts. She chose Tai Kwon Do, because there is a dojo walking distance from her school. She is now a green belt and determined to reach black belt before she graduates from high school. She also began to take dance lessons and is loving it. But how has martial arts changed her family?
About 3 months after beginning the lessons and making changes in her eating habits, her parent’s decided to join her. Andi now Andi does all the cooking and her parent’s are loving the new eating habits. Andi also has a younger sister who is 8 and also started Tai Kwon Do. Andi’s little sister I will call Summer. Summer has never had a weight problem. And because of the lifestyle changes initiated by Andi, she likely never will.
As of about a week ago,  Andi now is at a size 18 and plans to be at a size 16 before her prom in April. Plus she has her first boyfriend who is completely supportive of what she is doing. Andi after high school is considering becoming a dietician or a health coach.
And has decided that martial arts will remain a permanent part of her life. Her parent’s and sister are loving martial arts and are planning to continue in it as well. Andi attributes the biggest change because of the mindset she has because of martial arts.
Just something to think about.
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Credit to the “parent/child” picture goes to my friend Professor David Dunn. His website is Premier Martial Arts, Santa Clarita Valley, California. Professor  Dunn  is one of the leaders for UFAF, or the United Fighting Arts Federation. The same group I am part of with Top Form Karate & Fitness. UFAF has a network of schools all over the country. Look at the website for UFAF to find a school near you. Or, you can do like I’m doing and use the Top Form Online School. In the few weeks I’ve done this, I have already passed my first test, which is a written test. And I will test for Gold belt in a few weeks.
R.E.S.P.E.C.T.

R.E.S.P.E.C.T.

 

  • Sensei,
  • Master/Mr./Ms./Mrs.
  • Bowing as you enter or leave the room
  • Bowing to the instructor
  • Before and after doing a kata (special thanks to my friend Renshi John Morgan Hamilton for this part)

These are all used to show respect in martial arts. I have noticed that respect is lacking in many families as well as in schools. Webster’s 1828 dictionary says that respect “regards the qualities of the mind, or the actions which characterize those qualities.”

Another website Babin’s Martial Arts said this about respect regarding martial arts: “Respect means “taking someone else’s feelings, needs, thoughts and ideas into consideration”.   It means treating people, places, and things like they are special.  It also means admiring others and honoring their wishes and knowledge.  And finally, when dealing with others, you take their position into account.”

Think about someone you know who is respectful. Doors just seem to open for them. They are just blessed more. And life is just easier for them. The youth who is respectful gets better grades in school and has more friends. Leaders command respect. And it is because they are respectful.

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But now think about someone who is not respectful: how is life for them? Easy or hard? What kind of friends do they have? How are they perceived in the community they live in?

Respect is something that is earned.  But sadly, in many societies today this is something rarely seen. But it should be changed. And it can be. Respect is required in Japan by society. So, it can be taught. One of the biggest lessons my Grandpa Boyles and Grandpa Elkins taught me growing up is that we should always be respectful. It is a lesson that is sadly lacking today. But in dojo’s around the country: it is being taught. So, we do have hope.

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What is YOUR mindset???

What is YOUR mindset???

Mindset: an attitude, disposition, or mood. And, an intention or inclination. 

With this in mind: how do you keep your mindset positive? What are some actions you can take to have a positive attitude, disposition, or mood? How do you keep your intentions and inclinations going the right direction?

Here are some things I have done to keep positive:

  1. Start my day off right. I do daily affirmations. Then I eat breakfast. Then I exercise, these days by training in the Chuck Norris System.
  2. During the day, if a negative thought comes up (and it happens), I replace it with something positive.
  3. If I get hit with bad news, I find something positive in it. It’s the idea that there is a silver lining in every cloud. It’s not always easy to find, but it is there. For example, Las Vegas was hit by a shooter overnight last night. That is a bad thing. But I’m thankful that more people weren’t killed. This doesn’t mean I’m not sorry for the losses. I am very sorry about it. And I did cry over it.
  4. If I get frustrated, I practice martial arts or do something that gets me moving. As I exercise, I am able to literally work-out my frustrations. And then I go back and finish whatever I was working on. Whether it is school or my business or something else.

How do I keep my intentions positive?

  1. I stay focused on my goals. And review them frequently to make sure they are where they need to be at.
  2. I stay connected to my leaders and give them the freedom to speak whatever needs to be said, either good or bad, to me.
  3. I make sure that I am worthy in my own actions to be a leader. I can’t expect anyone to follow me if I am not actively doing what I would expect others to do. I am a leader, not a boss. And I keep this in the forefront of my mind.

What are some things you do?

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