What do 81% of the wealthy and only 19% of the poor do? I’ll give you a hint, or 2: it only takes a few minutes and will DRASTICALLY reduce stress in your life! And people with autism can’t function without doing this. It gives direction to the day, week, month and year! It’s the 5th thing that John & Nadya Melton teach about on this.
It’s having a to-do list! Sounds simple (and it is!), but very few do it. On this post, I’m going to pull from my own knowledge from my home-schooling years. And when my own kids were little. My kids are now ages 16-23. And when I quit doing this simple activity, my life became so chaotic, that I ended up falling apart. But maybe you’ve never done this. Or been taught how. Here’s my way of doing it. There are many ways to do this, but this is what I’ve learned.
1. Write down EVERY single thing that you have to get done. Include business/work, personal, kids, family, etc. This needs to include things that only get done on a weekly, monthly or yearly basis.
2. After you’ve written down what you have to do, categorize it into what needs to be done daily, then weekly, then monthly, and finally yearly.
3. After you’ve determined what needs to be done and how often, it gets MUCH easier! You schedule what order things get done. And this really comes down to personal preference. Some people work best by setting time blocks to get things done, others do best by doing a calendar with times. Most do a combination of these. For example, maybe you are in a class at the local gym. That will be at a specific time. That will also apply for work hours. By the way, a success tip I got from several of my leaders, including Reggie Cochran is if you have your own business: schedule it and work it like you would a job you go to. And treat it like that!
4. And that’s basically it. You will need to tweak it and adjust it when life changes. But a basic to-do list will simply allow you to get the things done each day that are required. And a bonus that you will discover is that you will have time to pursue those things that you “thought” you didn’t have time for. Such as a home-based business or a goal you thought you didn’t have time to pursue.
Now, what do you do when your friends/family/others don’t support this? First, decide if the opinion of that person really matters. A spouse or your parents, yes, they matter. And hopefully will support you in this! But anyone else (even well-meaning friends), decide if they are against it because you are making a decision that will inevitably change the relationship with them in some way. A story Reggie told me a few years ago will help here it’s the story of the crab bucket.
THE STORY OF THE CRAB BUCKET
One time a man was walking along the beach and saw another man fishing in the surf with a bait bucket beside him.
As he drew closer, he saw that the bait bucket had no lid and had live crabs inside.
“Why don’t you cover your bait bucket, so the crabs won’t escape?” he said.
“You don’t understand,” the man replied, “If there is one crab in the bucket it would surely crawl out very quickly.
However, when there are many crabs in the bucket, if one tries to crawl up the side, the others grab hold of it and pull it back down so that it will share the same fate as the rest of them.”
Do you have too many crabs in your life? If you do: maybe, it’s time to change it.
Another lesson I learned applies here too: you are like the 5 people you spend the most time with. If you are spending time with people who are broke, who have no ambition, or no dreams. That will impact how you live your life. But the nice thing is you can change this. I’m not saying it will be easy or that everyone will support it. In fact, since I made the commitment to change, I’ve lost MANY friends. BUT I’ve gained friends who have more than made up for it. And it’s changing my life for the better!
Here’s a video that talks about it:
The Law of Averages | One Minute Lesson
Finally, get a GRIP on life. (I’m not yelling, by the way). This is an acronym from my awesome friend, Bob Goshen. From his book: “Confident Hope:Getting Through What Your Going Through.”
G: God is in control. He will help you through this and guide you. Just ask Him to.
R: Rejoice during the challenge. Taking control of your time is a challenge, but it’s so worth it!
I: Initiate your faith. Bob’s wife, Kay, has a wonderful take on Hebrews 11:1 which says, “Faith is the confidence that what we hope for will actually happen; it gives us assurance about things we cannot see.” Kay’s interpretation is this: “Faith is believing something is so when it is not so, so it can be so.”
P: Prayer! Prayer is how I begin and end my day. But throughout the day, I also find myself praying throughout the day. And it’s because of that I’m able to handle my life. And anything that comes my way.
I hope this helps. As always, if I can help, let me know.