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TV, TOO MUCH???!!!! # 11 & 12

TV, TOO MUCH???!!!! # 11 & 12

80% OF THE USA POPULATION WATCHES TV EACH DAY! But beyond the numbers, is it damaging us? A research on this I learned this from the Bureau of Labor Statistics

The states that had the least amount of TV watched were Washington State, Idaho, Montana, Utah, New Mexico and Alaska which had lowest at 1.6 hours a day on average. West Virginia had the worst at 3.8 hours a day! This has me curious.

According to the CDC, Alaska isn’t as bad as several other states. It has an overall obesity rate of 25-29.9%. Whereas West Virginia has an obesity rate of over 35%!

Colorado, Washington DC, and Hawaii have the lowest obesity rates.

Why am I talking about this? It’s because of these numbers from 16 Habits of the Very Rich, which I got from John & Nadya Melton’s Program, My Lifestyle Academy.

These are numbers 11 & 12:
67% of the wealthy watch 1 hour or less of TV everyday vs. 23% for poor! AND
6% of the wealthy watch NO trash tv vs. 78% for the poor! Trash TV is another term for reality TV.

What can you do instead?

Here are some suggestions:
1. Get some exercise,
2. Start a home-based business,
3. Read a book,
4. Take up a new hobby,
5. Go back to school and learn something new! By the way, this is #14.

Get creative, and let me know what you come up with.

Champions team
16 Habits of the Very Rich 10

16 Habits of the Very Rich 10

We are at number 10! WOW!!!!

79% vs. 16%.

What falls into this category? My response will surprise you. And it’s defined at “the action or process of interacting with others to exchange information and develop professional or social contacts.”

It’s networking.

Here are 14 reasons to do this!
1. You might find a mentor. This is really helpful when you are just starting out or starting over. Maybe you are like me and spent 20+ years working from home and are starting a new career. A mentor will help shorten the learning curve you will go through.
2. You may hear about opportunities that aren’t public yet.
3. Build lifelong friendships.
4. It’s an avenue to exchange ideas. And that will help with creating better business strategies.
5. It makes you more noticeable in public. Your boss will likely notice this. This makes you more stand out and as a result, you will be able to offer more.
6. You can get support from high-profile people. You’ve heard me refer to Reggie Cochran on a number of posts. Likely over 80% of my posts here. He’s high-profile. And you will continue to hear about him. It’s because he is not only my friend, but also my leader. He is very high-profile because he’s the project coordinator for Chuck & Gena Norris, a mentor to other high-profile people, and a best-selling writer.
7. You will have more confidence. As you develop more confidence, your life will inevitably improve.
8. Six-degrees of separation: this makes anything possible! This rule says that generally there are never more than 6 people between you and the person you want to talk to.
9. Finding a job: 60%-80% of jobs are found through networking.
10. By broadening your professional horizons, you will stay sharp and current.
11. If you are in sales, networking will help you with getting more sales.
12. Are you unhappy with your career? Networking will help you get into a new career.
13. Golden Rule: you help others, and you’ll receive help.
14. Finally, remember this: a good network is simply just a circle of friends.


16 Habits of the Very Rich Part 8

16 Habits of the Very Rich Part 8

Reading: We’re taught as children to read. And when I was growing up, I was frequently reading. Or playing outside! But, how often do adults read? According to John & Nadya Melton’s website:

88% of the wealthy read 30 minutes or more for education or career reasons vs. 2% for poor!

This is HUGE! This past week, Reggie addressed this on Facebook. And his take is one worth considering!

“Yes… I believe that many “leaders are readers”. However… I believe there are a LOT MORE people who use reading and “researching” as an excuse for not doing.
If your reading & research time, is taking up your doing time, you need to give up reading until doing becomes your top priority.
And just as important… if the things you are reading is not improving your results, you are either reading the wrong things, not applying what you read… or both!”

As you think about this: remember, Reggie is a reader, and also a best-selling author who earned the Quilly Award. Here’s a video with him after receiving this awesome award! Reggie Cochran, Best Selling Author

Reading is an awesome past time. But, don’t just read: apply! Here’s a list of must-read books in my opinion:
1. Think and Grow Rich Today, this is the one Reggie got the Quilly Award for.
2. The One Thing: The Surprising Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results by Gary Keller with Jay Papasan
3. 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey
4. How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie
5. Awaken the Giant Within by Tony Robbins
6. As a Man Thinketh by James Allen
7. The Greatest Salesman in the World by Og Mandino
8. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff by Richard Carlson, Ph.D.
9. The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
10. The Circle Maker by Mark Batterson
11. Trailblazers: Leadership Lessons from 12 Pioneers Who Beat the Odds & Influenced Millions by Tony Rubleski & Dave Liniger
12. Mind Capture: How to Generate New & Repeat Business in the Age of Advertising Overload by Tony Rubleski
13. Mind Capture: How to Awaken Your Entrepreneurial Genius in a Time of Great Economic Change! By Tony Rubleski
14. Liquid Leadership: From Woodstock to Wikipedia—Multigenerational Management Ideas That Are Changing the Way We Run Things by Brad Szollose.
15. Rock Bottom is a Beautiful Place: Testimonies of Triumph by Diane Cunningham and others.
16. Rock Bottom Is A Beautiful Place 2: Living Your Calling by Diane Cunningham and others.
17. Rock Bottom Is a Beautiful Place 3: Living With A Grateful Heart by Diane Cunningham and others

There are many other books that are great to read. If you want a more expansive list, then reach out to me.

16 Habits of the Very Rich, Part 5

16 Habits of the Very Rich, Part 5

What do 81% of the wealthy and only 19% of the poor do? I’ll give you a hint, or 2: it only takes a few minutes and will DRASTICALLY reduce stress in your life! And people with autism can’t function without doing this. It gives direction to the day, week, month and year! It’s the 5th thing that John & Nadya Melton teach about on this.

It’s having a to-do list! Sounds simple (and it is!), but very few do it. On this post, I’m going to pull from my own knowledge from my home-schooling years. And when my own kids were little. My kids are now ages 16-23. And when I quit doing this simple activity, my life became so chaotic, that I ended up falling apart. But maybe you’ve never done this. Or been taught how. Here’s my way of doing it. There are many ways to do this, but this is what I’ve learned.

1. Write down EVERY single thing that you have to get done. Include business/work, personal, kids, family, etc. This needs to include things that only get done on a weekly, monthly or yearly basis.
2. After you’ve written down what you have to do, categorize it into what needs to be done daily, then weekly, then monthly, and finally yearly.
3. After you’ve determined what needs to be done and how often, it gets MUCH easier! You schedule what order things get done. And this really comes down to personal preference. Some people work best by setting time blocks to get things done, others do best by doing a calendar with times. Most do a combination of these. For example, maybe you are in a class at the local gym. That will be at a specific time. That will also apply for work hours. By the way, a success tip I got from several of my leaders, including Reggie Cochran is if you have your own business: schedule it and work it like you would a job you go to. And treat it like that!
4. And that’s basically it. You will need to tweak it and adjust it when life changes. But a basic to-do list will simply allow you to get the things done each day that are required. And a bonus that you will discover is that you will have time to pursue those things that you “thought” you didn’t have time for. Such as a home-based business or a goal you thought you didn’t have time to pursue.

Now, what do you do when your friends/family/others don’t support this? First, decide if the opinion of that person really matters. A spouse or your parents, yes, they matter. And hopefully will support you in this! But anyone else (even well-meaning friends), decide if they are against it because you are making a decision that will inevitably change the relationship with them in some way. A story Reggie told me a few years ago will help here it’s the story of the crab bucket.

One time a man was walking along the beach and saw another man fishing in the surf with a bait bucket beside him.
As he drew closer, he saw that the bait bucket had no lid and had live crabs inside.
“Why don’t you cover your bait bucket, so the crabs won’t escape?” he said.
“You don’t understand,” the man replied, “If there is one crab in the bucket it would surely crawl out very quickly.
However, when there are many crabs in the bucket, if one tries to crawl up the side, the others grab hold of it and pull it back down so that it will share the same fate as the rest of them.”

Do you have too many crabs in your life? If you do: maybe, it’s time to change it.

crab bucket

Another lesson I learned applies here too: you are like the 5 people you spend the most time with. If you are spending time with people who are broke, who have no ambition, or no dreams. That will impact how you live your life. But the nice thing is you can change this. I’m not saying it will be easy or that everyone will support it. In fact, since I made the commitment to change, I’ve lost MANY friends. BUT I’ve gained friends who have more than made up for it. And it’s changing my life for the better!

Here’s a video that talks about it:

The Law of Averages | One Minute Lesson

Finally, get a GRIP on life. (I’m not yelling, by the way). This is an acronym from my awesome friend, Bob Goshen. From his book: “Confident Hope:Getting Through What Your Going Through.”

G: God is in control. He will help you through this and guide you. Just ask Him to.
R: Rejoice during the challenge. Taking control of your time is a challenge, but it’s so worth it!
I: Initiate your faith. Bob’s wife, Kay, has a wonderful take on Hebrews 11:1 which says, “Faith is the confidence that what we hope for will actually happen; it gives us assurance about things we cannot see.” Kay’s interpretation is this: “Faith is believing something is so when it is not so, so it can be so.”
P: Prayer! Prayer is how I begin and end my day. But throughout the day, I also find myself praying throughout the day. And it’s because of that I’m able to handle my life. And anything that comes my way.

I hope this helps. As always, if I can help, let me know.

16 Habits of the VERY RICH #4

16 Habits of the VERY RICH #4

So far, in this series, I’ve talked about eating healthy, focus, and exercise. These are things everyone should do but most don’t. Today’s post is NO DIFFERENT! These are things that people should do. But most don’t. And whether you are in network marketing, or in some other business, these are things that will help you do much better in ANY career.

What do you listen to? According to what I learned from John and Nadya Melton, 63% of the wealthy listen to audio books during the commute to work, compared to only 5% of the poor. For those who work from home, such as me, we listen to audio books when doing desk work or other activities. When I was working at a desk job when I was alone, I would frequently listen to an audio book. I’ve also listened when I’m exercising, going for a walk, or other times.

People tell me A LOT that “I can’t afford it” or “I don’t have time.” Personally, that’s bull! You can get audiobooks from the local library or off YouTube. You can also spend a small amount ($15/month currently) to get audiobooks from Audible. And that gets you 1 book, plus 2 free ones each month. I’ve currently got 18 books on my audible account. Several I’ve listened to several times.

As I was looking into this for reasons beyond my personal preference, I came across an article that got my attention. A blog called Asian Efficiency gave 7 reasons for this:

1. Preference. Some people learn better by listening. I’ve got 2 kids in that category.
2. Better retention. When I was in college, I found when I was reading my textbook while having it read to me, I retained the information better. As a result, I graduated with honors in an area that was typically tough on me. I’m not a natural lover of science. In high school, I FAILED it. And barely passed the 2nd time through. The difference I’m convinced is the combination of listening while reading the text.
3. Faster learning! This is a simple way to get more information rapidly.
4. Save time. As I’ve said earlier, I’ve listened to audiobooks when doing other activities. Whether housework, homework, at my job, or exercising.
5. Uplifting! Like music can uplift your spirits, so can listening to an audiobook. I’ve been “caught by my kids” listening to audiobooks from YouTube many times.
6. Effective. Listening to things like biographies are great over audio. And a great way to learn about successful people.
7. And finally, convenient! Do you have a phone with internet access? You can use it for audiobooks!

Here are my favorite audiobooks that I’ve listened to:
1. Freakishly Effective Social Media for Network Marketing by Ray and Jessica Higdon. I’ve listened to this one 3X now!
2. How to Build Your Network Marketing Business in 15-minutes A Day! By Keith & Tom “Big Al” Schreiter. I have this one in paperback and it’s great! And simple!
3. The Game of Network Marketing by Rob Sperry. He’s got a new book coming out in February that I can’t wait to get!
4. You are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life by Jen Sincero.
5. Smith Wigglesworth: The Secret of His Power by Albert Hibbert
6. Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert T. Kiyosaki
7. The Magic of Thinking Big, by David J. Schwartz, Ph.D.
8. Extraordinary Leadership by Robin Sharma. This one is currently free!
9. The Richest Man in Babylon by George S. Clason, on YouTube. Here’s the link: The Richest Man in Babylon
10. The Mind Capture Series by my friend, Tony Rubleski.
Mind Capture, How to Stand Out in the Age of Advertising Overload

Mind Capture (Book 2): How You Can Stand Out in the Age of Advertising Deficit Disorder
Mind Capture (Book 3): How to Awaken Your Entrepreneurial Genius in a Time of Great Economic Change!

16 Habits of the VERY RICH 3

16 Habits of the VERY RICH 3

What is #3 on John & Nadya Melton’s My Lifestyle Academy teaching on 16 Habits of the Very Rich? How often do you work out? If you are wealthy (or working toward it), you are part of the 76% of those who do. But if you are poor (and content with it), you are in the 23% of those who do it. Big difference! If you are battling an injury, or recovering from an illness does that mean you shouldn’t exercise? Maybe for a while, yes. But even then: there are things that you can do. Here are some suggestions I got from an article in Shape Magazine How To Exercise After Being Sick:

Start slow! Start with a light cardio then resistance training. Then add on. Start at 70% of what you were doing.

Reduce your weights and cardio by about 30% for a few days. This will make up what you lost while you were sick.

Build back slowly, even if you are temped to push harder.

What if you don’t do typical workouts and are in martial arts? The same idea applies. Talk to your sensei. And follow his/her advice. A good sensei will understand and work with you. You may even need to return to what you did as a white belt. There is NOTHING wrong with getting grounded again in the basics. Here are 10 reasons to exercise and be physically active:

1. More energy!
2. Burn more calories at rest
3. Improve overall appearance
4. Be able to withstand stress
5. Decrease risk of illness
6. Speed up recovery from injury or surgery
7. Keep focused
8. Build up cardiovascular endurance
9. Improve flexibility
10.Increase lean body mass

Reggie and Carlos
It’s known that because of Reggie Cochran, I’m a fan (if not fanatic, lol), of martial arts. Here are 10 reasons to learn one!

1. Fitness! It’s an awesome exercise program!
2. Learn life skills, including confidence, focus, self-discipline, self-defense, leadership and respect! For EVERY and I martial artist I’m friends with: RESPECT is the #1 reason to learn it. It carries over into every area of life.
3. Coordination and flexibility. You will get more flexibility and have better coordination as you learn this.
4. Hammers discipline. An article I read said this: “A sense of responsibility and alertness is promoted as you learn Martial Arts. Thus, with the instilling of discipline comes the knowledge of how to behave, act and perform; curbing any kind of misbehavior and delinquency.” (Ayesha Shaikh: 10 Reasons to Learn Martial Arts)
5. Learn a new art form. The wise never stop learning. This carries over into every area of life.
6. Self-confidence will improve drastically. Having confidence in what you can do will push you to learn more.
7. Law enforcement: Ayesha Shaikh said in the same article listed above “There are times when public becomes barbaric, taking laws in their own hands and creating ruckus on the street. On such occasions, the police usually control the crows by resorting to techniques of Martial Arts. Moreover, when sometimes unarmed officers are attacked by unexpected strangers, Martial Arts comes to the rescue and helps save lives.”
8. Mental and spiritual development. When you learn to focus, you will also learn mental toughness. It’s comparable to being given a challenge, and then rising to the challenge to achieve it. This will lead to spiritual peace. And allows for mental development. Frank Gutting said, “Martial Arts should be a way of life, not a job, hobby, sport but a part of you and the way you live your life.” I see this in EVERY black belt I’m friends with. Without exception.
9. Preservation of a nation’s tangible cultural heritage. Martial arts are a traditional art form. But it’s also plays a HUGE role in maintaining overall growth and development: physical, psychological and spiritual.
10. Finally, self-defense. There is a rise in aggressive behavior. Those people who know martial arts can defend themselves or in someone in need in that situation. A movie called “The Martial Arts Kid” by Traditionz Entertainment show this. And it’s a movie I strongly suggest you get. I loved it!

16 Habits of the VERY RICH! Part 2!

16 Habits of the VERY RICH! Part 2!

John and Nadya Melton taught me that 80% of the wealthy are focused on accomplishing some single goal! Only 12% of the poor do this!

Over the past 9 years of learning about how to get healthy I’ve read more books than I have ever read! Almost every single one I’ve read points to the power of focus! Here’s what David K. William said in his blog “15 Things Highly Focused People Don’t Do.” He is a publisher and entrepreneur who tries to help professionals grow their business and careers and gives advice for entrepreneurs.

1. They don’t gossip. They have better things to do with their time.
2. They don’t multitask. They focus on 1 or at the most 2 things at a time!
3. They don’t procrastinate! Get it done.
4. They don’t allow distractions to derail them. Reggie has told me to have work hours be work hours. And play hours be play hours. Don’t get distracted without a VERY good reason! For example: a fire, or a life-threatening issue.
5. They don’t seek validation from others. Know your self-worth. And learn to do things for yourself. There is a saying: “If you are not willing to learn, no one can help you. If you are determined to learn, no one can stop you.” (Anonymous).
6. They don’t entertain disorganization. The most successful people I know are organized! And they know in advance what is coming. This prevents stress, increases creativity, and doesn’t cost time. Which is the most valuable commodity we have!
7. They don’t give silly excuses not to work. They don’t suffer from excusitis! Saying “I don’t have time for ____” (you fill in the blank).
8. They aren’t afraid to take a risk. Life is a risk, no one is guaranteed tomorrow.
9. They don’t dwell on the past. They accept the past and what happened and move on. “They simply accept what is, let go of what was and have faith in what could be.”
10. They don’t act rashly! “They stick to their goals and stay committed to their dreams through the sunny days and rainy days. “
11. They mind their own business. If it doesn’t affect them, they don’t get involved. This doesn’t mean they don’t care. But it can come across that way.
12. They don’t compare themselves to others. They are content with who they are.
13. They don’t have unrealistic expectations. Life isn’t always smooth. And changes happen. They realize this and adapt when needed.
14. They say “NO” when needed! And they are not people pleasers. They say no to things that get them distracted to things that are not a priority. A sick child is a priority, so is getting a business launched or going to a higher level.
15. Finally, they don’t quit! They realize that things get tough. And accept it. They will take a break, but not quit!

“If you are not willing to learn, no one can help you. If you are determined to learn, no one can stop you.” (Anonymous).