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16 Habits of the VERY Wealthy THE END!

16 Habits of the VERY Wealthy THE END!

Throughout this series I’ve covered a lot! And if you implement what I’ve endeavored to teach you, then you will have a successful future. Today, there are 2 more things that should be implemented and will help you have a better life. But, they are NOT easy. But are worth it!

Avoid TOXIC people and DON’T give up!

86% of wealthy people associate with other successful people. 96% of people associate with other people who are poor.

I’ve said this before: YOU ARE LIKE THE 5 PEOPLE YOU SPEND THE MOST TIME WITH. And it’s completely true!

Wealthy people have these 3 things in common:
1. They are focused.
2. They are persistent.
3. They are patient! Good things really do come to those who wait, but while they are waiting, they are also working on doing the daily actions that will get them where they want. They aren’t LAZY.

Wealthy people don’t quit chasing their big goals. But, those who struggle financially stop short!

Do you struggle with any of the things that I’ve talked about here? I’ve got a book recommendation for you: Mel Robbins 5 Second Rule

Coming up, I am going to look at my friends who are martial artist and see what sets them apart from other athletes.

“If you are not willing to learn, no one can help you. If you are determined to learn, no one can stop you.” (Anonymous).

16 Habits of the Very Rich part 6!

16 Habits of the Very Rich part 6!

Let’s start with a review. So far, we have this, focusing on what the wealthy do.

1. 70% eat less than 300 junk food calories a day.
2. 80% are focused on a SINGLE GOAL.
3. 76% are exercising aerobically 4X a week.
4. 63% are listening to audiobooks.
5. 81% are maintaining a to-do list.

What is #6?

It’s really simple! It’s wishing people happy birthday! Sounds simple, and it is! But very few actually do it. The reason is simple: it makes people feel valued and appreciated.

So, take a few minutes and wish your family and friends happy birthday!

tore-f-jh3X89yh6pI-unsplash Photo by Tore F on Unsplash

16 Habits of the Very Rich, Part 5

16 Habits of the Very Rich, Part 5

What do 81% of the wealthy and only 19% of the poor do? I’ll give you a hint, or 2: it only takes a few minutes and will DRASTICALLY reduce stress in your life! And people with autism can’t function without doing this. It gives direction to the day, week, month and year! It’s the 5th thing that John & Nadya Melton teach about on this.

It’s having a to-do list! Sounds simple (and it is!), but very few do it. On this post, I’m going to pull from my own knowledge from my home-schooling years. And when my own kids were little. My kids are now ages 16-23. And when I quit doing this simple activity, my life became so chaotic, that I ended up falling apart. But maybe you’ve never done this. Or been taught how. Here’s my way of doing it. There are many ways to do this, but this is what I’ve learned.

1. Write down EVERY single thing that you have to get done. Include business/work, personal, kids, family, etc. This needs to include things that only get done on a weekly, monthly or yearly basis.
2. After you’ve written down what you have to do, categorize it into what needs to be done daily, then weekly, then monthly, and finally yearly.
3. After you’ve determined what needs to be done and how often, it gets MUCH easier! You schedule what order things get done. And this really comes down to personal preference. Some people work best by setting time blocks to get things done, others do best by doing a calendar with times. Most do a combination of these. For example, maybe you are in a class at the local gym. That will be at a specific time. That will also apply for work hours. By the way, a success tip I got from several of my leaders, including Reggie Cochran is if you have your own business: schedule it and work it like you would a job you go to. And treat it like that!
4. And that’s basically it. You will need to tweak it and adjust it when life changes. But a basic to-do list will simply allow you to get the things done each day that are required. And a bonus that you will discover is that you will have time to pursue those things that you “thought” you didn’t have time for. Such as a home-based business or a goal you thought you didn’t have time to pursue.

Now, what do you do when your friends/family/others don’t support this? First, decide if the opinion of that person really matters. A spouse or your parents, yes, they matter. And hopefully will support you in this! But anyone else (even well-meaning friends), decide if they are against it because you are making a decision that will inevitably change the relationship with them in some way. A story Reggie told me a few years ago will help here it’s the story of the crab bucket.

One time a man was walking along the beach and saw another man fishing in the surf with a bait bucket beside him.
As he drew closer, he saw that the bait bucket had no lid and had live crabs inside.
“Why don’t you cover your bait bucket, so the crabs won’t escape?” he said.
“You don’t understand,” the man replied, “If there is one crab in the bucket it would surely crawl out very quickly.
However, when there are many crabs in the bucket, if one tries to crawl up the side, the others grab hold of it and pull it back down so that it will share the same fate as the rest of them.”

Do you have too many crabs in your life? If you do: maybe, it’s time to change it.

crab bucket

Another lesson I learned applies here too: you are like the 5 people you spend the most time with. If you are spending time with people who are broke, who have no ambition, or no dreams. That will impact how you live your life. But the nice thing is you can change this. I’m not saying it will be easy or that everyone will support it. In fact, since I made the commitment to change, I’ve lost MANY friends. BUT I’ve gained friends who have more than made up for it. And it’s changing my life for the better!

Here’s a video that talks about it:

The Law of Averages | One Minute Lesson

Finally, get a GRIP on life. (I’m not yelling, by the way). This is an acronym from my awesome friend, Bob Goshen. From his book: “Confident Hope:Getting Through What Your Going Through.”

G: God is in control. He will help you through this and guide you. Just ask Him to.
R: Rejoice during the challenge. Taking control of your time is a challenge, but it’s so worth it!
I: Initiate your faith. Bob’s wife, Kay, has a wonderful take on Hebrews 11:1 which says, “Faith is the confidence that what we hope for will actually happen; it gives us assurance about things we cannot see.” Kay’s interpretation is this: “Faith is believing something is so when it is not so, so it can be so.”
P: Prayer! Prayer is how I begin and end my day. But throughout the day, I also find myself praying throughout the day. And it’s because of that I’m able to handle my life. And anything that comes my way.

I hope this helps. As always, if I can help, let me know.

16 Habits of the VERY RICH 3

16 Habits of the VERY RICH 3

What is #3 on John & Nadya Melton’s My Lifestyle Academy teaching on 16 Habits of the Very Rich? How often do you work out? If you are wealthy (or working toward it), you are part of the 76% of those who do. But if you are poor (and content with it), you are in the 23% of those who do it. Big difference! If you are battling an injury, or recovering from an illness does that mean you shouldn’t exercise? Maybe for a while, yes. But even then: there are things that you can do. Here are some suggestions I got from an article in Shape Magazine How To Exercise After Being Sick:

Start slow! Start with a light cardio then resistance training. Then add on. Start at 70% of what you were doing.

Reduce your weights and cardio by about 30% for a few days. This will make up what you lost while you were sick.

Build back slowly, even if you are temped to push harder.

What if you don’t do typical workouts and are in martial arts? The same idea applies. Talk to your sensei. And follow his/her advice. A good sensei will understand and work with you. You may even need to return to what you did as a white belt. There is NOTHING wrong with getting grounded again in the basics. Here are 10 reasons to exercise and be physically active:

1. More energy!
2. Burn more calories at rest
3. Improve overall appearance
4. Be able to withstand stress
5. Decrease risk of illness
6. Speed up recovery from injury or surgery
7. Keep focused
8. Build up cardiovascular endurance
9. Improve flexibility
10.Increase lean body mass

Reggie and Carlos
It’s known that because of Reggie Cochran, I’m a fan (if not fanatic, lol), of martial arts. Here are 10 reasons to learn one!

1. Fitness! It’s an awesome exercise program!
2. Learn life skills, including confidence, focus, self-discipline, self-defense, leadership and respect! For EVERY and I martial artist I’m friends with: RESPECT is the #1 reason to learn it. It carries over into every area of life.
3. Coordination and flexibility. You will get more flexibility and have better coordination as you learn this.
4. Hammers discipline. An article I read said this: “A sense of responsibility and alertness is promoted as you learn Martial Arts. Thus, with the instilling of discipline comes the knowledge of how to behave, act and perform; curbing any kind of misbehavior and delinquency.” (Ayesha Shaikh: 10 Reasons to Learn Martial Arts)
5. Learn a new art form. The wise never stop learning. This carries over into every area of life.
6. Self-confidence will improve drastically. Having confidence in what you can do will push you to learn more.
7. Law enforcement: Ayesha Shaikh said in the same article listed above “There are times when public becomes barbaric, taking laws in their own hands and creating ruckus on the street. On such occasions, the police usually control the crows by resorting to techniques of Martial Arts. Moreover, when sometimes unarmed officers are attacked by unexpected strangers, Martial Arts comes to the rescue and helps save lives.”
8. Mental and spiritual development. When you learn to focus, you will also learn mental toughness. It’s comparable to being given a challenge, and then rising to the challenge to achieve it. This will lead to spiritual peace. And allows for mental development. Frank Gutting said, “Martial Arts should be a way of life, not a job, hobby, sport but a part of you and the way you live your life.” I see this in EVERY black belt I’m friends with. Without exception.
9. Preservation of a nation’s tangible cultural heritage. Martial arts are a traditional art form. But it’s also plays a HUGE role in maintaining overall growth and development: physical, psychological and spiritual.
10. Finally, self-defense. There is a rise in aggressive behavior. Those people who know martial arts can defend themselves or in someone in need in that situation. A movie called “The Martial Arts Kid” by Traditionz Entertainment show this. And it’s a movie I strongly suggest you get. I loved it!

Faith and Martial Arts???

Faith and Martial Arts???

A google search of martial arts and Christianity generated about 16,600,000 results! Can a believer in Jesus practice martial arts safely? My response is YES! There are some martial arts forms that originated in Israel. And the actress named Gal Gadot who played Wonder Woman in the last movie in 2017 was herself Israeli. She learned Krav Maga, a style that I have several friends who are black belts in.

From the beginning, I knew that Reggie was a Christian. And he’s taught me more about being a believer in Jesus than anyone. When Jesus walked the earth, He was all about building relationships. Reggie and I are the same way. I’m not against churches. Far from it. But I do believe that we need to get back to where Jesus had His disciples. And it’s possible. We just need to get back to the basics. And follow what the Bible teaches. Completely. It’s simple.

When it comes to what Reggie has taught me, it’s actually very simple. If Jesus said it or did it: we can do the same thing if we have Jesus living inside of us. It’s really that simple. And achievable. Reggie has encouraged me to learn from 3 specific church leaders. This was really helpful last summer when most of the time on weekends I was working 7am to 7pm and going to a physical church wasn’t logistically possible. But I was determined to not allow my faith to be impacted. Many times, at work I would be listening to online sermons. Here’s the ones I listen to, and still continue to do even though I’m able to go to church now on Sundays and even Wednesday’s sometimes. If you click on the name, you will go to the website.

1. Kenneth Copeland Ministries and Eagle Mountain International Church, which is part of it.
2. Andrew Wommack Ministries
3. Curry Blake who leads John G. Lake Ministries.

What does this have to do with martial arts? A LOT!!!! I have already said in this series that one of Reggie’s projects is he is the project coordinator for Chuck & Gena Norris. It’s well known that the Norris’s are Christians. So is Reggie. So am I. But we are also martial artists.

Chuck Norris has a code of ethics that is excellent! One of these is this: “I will always remain loyal to God, my country, my family and my friends.” When I was first introduced to how martial arts could benefit me, I talked with a few friends who meant well. But they were not connected to martial arts in any capacity. They were VERY quick to inform me that martial arts is not something I should pursue because it’s new age. But my gut said, go for it! Reggie is one of the people who pointed out that being a Christian doesn’t mean you can’t practice any form of martial arts. And since then I’ve discovered that there are a LOT of believers in martial arts. So, maybe you’ve been thinking about martial arts but concerned about being a believer in this. Don’t let it hold you back. Support is there, and its great exercise! Need help finding a dojo? Let me know. I’ve got a LOT of friends in the martial arts community who are also believers. I’ll help. 😊


The Joy of Christmas

The Joy of Christmas

It’s Jesus birthday. A time of love, peace, hope, and goodwill. We show it by giving gifts, pouring out love to those around us. And by sending out greetings in a multitude of ways. It’s the time of year when we really do what the word JOY spells out:


When I was growing up, we would gather at my grandparent’s house as often as possible in North Carolina. We would open the gifts, which was always a crazy adventure. But we would have so much fun. Then we would eat, and eat, and eat! If you left hungry: it was your own fault. Because there was so much food! Turkey, ham, stuffing, green bean casserole, deviled eggs, sweet potato casserole, and gravy of course. Then the deserts: pumpkin pie, pecan pie, cookies, and my favorite was my grandma’s date balls. We would all be totally stuffed before we were done. Then we would play games, sometimes inside and other times outside. Occasionally we would have snow and we would always go outside and build a snowman. Then have a snowball fight. These are some of my favorite memories. Even though my grandparent’s have passed away, those memories will keep them alive in my heart.

Growing up, love was shown in many ways. But no so much as when we were just together. It was just knowing that my family was there: whether we were together with all my aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins, my brother and parents. Or apart. We knew that somewhere under the stars, we were together. Growing up,we would listen to some WONDERFUL Christmas Carols. My favorite was Oh Holy Night, especially when it was sung by a soprano. Here’s a version from YouTube:

O Holy Night with Sandy Patty

But I would also love singing Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer. Here’s a video of that one too.

Chipmunks Version of Rudoph the Red-Nosed Reindeer

I wish you a VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS. And all the best in 2020.


Going for What YOU Want

Going for What YOU Want

We all have them: those people who tell you that for one reason or another you can’t or shouldn’t do what you dream of. Sometimes they are family. What do you do? I’ve struggled with this in some huge ways over the past 20+ years. Here are some suggestions on what you can do.

  1. Find some small things that you can be successful at that are in the category of what you are dreaming of. For example, if you want to be healthier, begin to take walks or go to a gym. And adapt healthy changes you can make in your diet.
  2. Make it a point to get around people who build you up. This can be done in person or through social media, like Facebook.
  3. Do daily affirmations daily.
  4. Set goals and begin to take steps toward them becoming reality.
  5. Tell yourself, repeatedly as needed, that you can accomplish what you are dreaming of.
  6. Take immediate action toward what you want. No matter how little, a little can go a long way at times.
  7. Find some hero’s and mentors. Someone who will direct you and support you.

Hopefully these tips will help you get started in the life you want.