Tag: Dr. Reggie Cochran

Being QuitProof!

Being QuitProof!

My amazing friend, Tom Jones, is “QuitProof”  I met him through another amazing friend, Dr. Reggie Cochran (who I call “Reg” most of the time). They both exemplify what it means to be Quitproof. These two amazing men don’t quit! This applies to all of my friends who are leaders in martial arts, network marketing, and in school.

Over the weekend I was asked a question that I had a very simple comeback to. “What if reaching black belt wasn’t an option?” My response was “that isn’t an option.” I don’t quit. My response was quick and natural. After that brief conversation, and after thinking about it, I realized that this applies to every area of my life. What makes me any different than you?

I’m not any different! Except that I follow a very simple law in my life from John C. Maxwell: The Law of Victory. This says that anything less than success is unacceptable. And they have no Plan B.  I don’t have a plan b for any of the plans I have. So, success is the only option.

When you decide that success is the only option, you become Quitproof. And quitting doesn’t even enter as a possibility. Jesus said that nothing is impossible. And when you decide that quitting isn’t an option, you will begin to see the impossible become possible.

I’ve not hidden the fact that I am a follower of Christ. Isaiah 55: 10-12 talks about the Law of Victory. Leaders communicate until they see results! I’ve seen this in EVERY leader I know. Both Christians and non-Christians alike. Here’s what it says:

10 “For as the rain comes down, and the snow from heaven,
And do not return there,
But water the earth, (His word will get results!)
And make it bring forth and bud,
That it may give seed to the sower
And bread to the eater, (His Word will furnish tools & resources)

11 So shall My word be that goes forth from My mouth;
It shall not return to Me void,
But it shall accomplish what I please,
And it shall prosper in the thing for which I sent it. (His Word will meet needs)

12 “For you shall go out with joy,
And be led out with peace;
The mountains and the hills
Shall break forth into singing before you,
And all the trees of the field shall clap their hands. (His Word will satisfy the soul of the hearers)

One of the most important lessons I’ve learned over the years is that when you make quitting an option, it gives you a way out. So, simply, don’t give yourself a way out and in doing that you don’t make quitting an option.

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Faith…in God

Faith…in God

Hebrews 11 says that faith is the substance of things hoped for the evidence of things not seen. There are over 60 verses in the bible related to faith. That’s a lot! Several times Jesus told people who came to Him for healing that their faith had healed them, or their servant, or child. Faith is strong! It can move mountains, destroy strongholds, raise the dead and heal the sick.

So, why do people die when they are too young and what does this have to do with faith? Is it Jesus fault? I don’t believe that for a minute! It happens because we live in a fallen world. Jesus said that I came that you might have life and have it abundantly! (John 10:10). Faith can allow us to speak to a mountain and command it to fall!

How many mountains are in your life? What is holding you back to having the life you want? My friend, that is a mountain! So, how do you deal with that mountain? You speak to it and by faith take it. You do this by prayer. Take faith and combine it with prayer. When you do this, and continue to claim it until you receive it, you will have it.

Do you want prosperity? Ask for it! Do you want health? Ask for it! But when you ask for it, believe you receive it and you will have it. Reggie, back in 2014, taught me a simple way to pray. It’s called a sandwich prayer. You simply praise God for whatever comes to mind. Then you ask God for whatever is on your heart. Then you simply praise God until you see it come to pass. This applies to anything you want to pray about, no matter what.

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The Desire to Change

The Desire to Change

This is from a note I posted on Facebook on June 4, 2017 and I’m doing an impromptu repost of it here.

When I was a girl I had a lot of struggles. I had a hard time remembering things and would struggle to learn the most basic things in school. Doing things like putting a puzzle together or writing was hard. My mom was wonderful growing up. She made sure I got the help I needed. One summer stands out as one of the best summers of my life. From 1975 to 1977 my Mom, my brother Glenn, and I were living near Eglin Air Force Base in Florida. I had a teacher named Mrs. Bullock. To this day, she stands out as one of my favorite teachers ever. The summer of 1976 stands out. Almost every day, I would go to see Mrs. Bullock. We would go to the beach and collect seashells. When we felt like we had enough, we went to her house and I took all those seashells and glued them on a bottle she had. During that time, we would talk and I think, looking back now, it was a way that I got speech and occupational therapy. The bottle has been lost for many years now, but the memories of that summer remain. Looking back now, I learned a lot more that summer than how to decorate a bottle with seashells. I learned to trust people outside of my home. And I also learned about changes. Prior to this I had my mom, dad, who was gone a lot and that particular time frame he was in Panama, and Glenn. Plus, a nanny when I was little and we lived in Germany. We had moved there when I was barely a month old and lived there until I was almost 6. This was from 1968 to 1972. That summer of 1976 I learned to change. I learned that I can do things that are hard and saw that I can be successful. After that summer passed I had Mrs. Bullock as a teacher again for the second grade. She continued to work with me doing puzzles and talking about different things. Over the two years that I had Mrs. Bullock in my life, I grew by leaps and bounds.
Flash forward to 2011. I had grown up, graduated from high school started college, but quit just prior to graduating because I thought I was close to graduating and I had thought that I was done. Another lesson learned. Make sure that you are on track to complete your task. Track your activities. This goes directly with changing. That year I spent most of my time sick. By November, I was hitting rock bottom. One day I was home and sitting on the edge of my bed crying. I told God to either take me home or help me get better. I was married, had 4 kids that I home-schooled. All of which were going for speech therapy, three were going for occupational therapy, and one was going for physical therapy as well almost every day of the week. This had been going on since 1998. I didn’t want to die, but I truly felt like I was. That day I started following Dr. Don Colbert on Facebook. And while I was very quiet for several months, I was paying attention. In March of 2012 I started asking questions that would begin to help me recover. Over time as I followed his advice, I began to get better. In 2013, I joined a network marketing company and began to learn how to see my life could be better by the people I allowed into it. During this time, I became friends with the man who eventually would become my sponsor in the network marketing company I am now in. His name is Chad Statham. He showed me how to make healthy friends (without ever telling me this directly). He also taught me what the difference is between a good leader and a great leader. A good leader will say he cares and will show it from time to time. A great leader will consistently show he or she cares. I learned this from my amazing friend and leader, Reggie Cochran as well. As I look back and remember Mrs. Bullock, she taught me this also. She showed me she cared. So, did Reggie and Chad. It’s one thing to say you care. It’s a different story to show you care. This is lesson number two. For things to change, you must show you care more about others than yourself. It’s not about money. I’ve seen this in the people that Chad and Reggie have as leaders as well. Which leads to lesson three in changing.
In the bible, Jesus grew in wisdom and in stature. With favor with God and man. This is found in Luke 2:52. To grow in favor with man, you must have compassion. If you want things to change in life, compassion must dominate your character. There is a saying I love by Teddy Roosevelt, “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” The leaders I have are the most compassionate people I’ve ever met. That is what makes them incredible leaders. Herman White, Tony & Sarah Zolecki, Rick & Michelle Teague, John & Nadya Melton, Reggie and Terry Cochran, Crystal Meisner, Anita Clay, Gena Norris, Chris Lianos, Jeff Lord, Barb Hollace, Annie Berryhill, Loretta Monteiro, and several others are my leaders. I call them my leaders purely because they truly care. And have more compassion than anyone I know. It has nothing to do with how much money they have. It has everything to do with how much they care. This has been the dominating factor in who I count as leaders. It’s not about religion. I am a Christian, but not all the people I consider my leaders are. Do you want to be a leader? Show compassion and the followers will come. But also, be kind. Be willing to be there, even when it’s inconvenient. And finally, be open to change. Because to be a leader, you must be open to change. Even when it isn’t easy. This picture is of Chad and I. It was taken in June of 2014.
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VISION!!!!

VISION!!!!

By January 31, 2019 I will have my Bachelor’s in Science in Nutrition Science from Kaplan University. This will set me up to be a professional health and wellness coach. I will be providing services to anyone whether they can afford a coach or not. My business already has a name also! But that will be private for a little while.  What I just wrote out is my vision. Proverbs 29:18 says “Without vision, people perish.”

Do you have a vision for your life? Do you know what you want? Your imagination is your vision. There is no right or wrong on this. It is simply: what do you want? If you could do ANYTHING in your life, what would it be? Don’t be afraid to dream to big. I was told a few years ago, by Reggie Cochran that the only difference between dreaming big and dreaming small is the amount of action steps it will take to make it a reality.

You may have a dream to get out of debt. And that is good. But what is better is to get out of debt and have a $1,000,000 in the bank. What would this do for you personally? What would this do for your family? What would this do for your neighborhood/community? Don’t be afraid to dream bigger than you’ve been told you should!

So, call to action: what do you want to do? Contact me and let’s talk and make your dream a reality!

Martial Arts…Just Another Exercise Program?

Martial Arts…Just Another Exercise Program?

Dr. Reggie Cochran, Chuck Norris, Aaron Norris, Don “The Dragon” Wilson, Cynthia “Lady Dragon” Rothrock, James Wilson, and Esau McKnight: all world famous martial artists. But as I’ve gotten to know several people on this list I’ve seen more to them than just being Masters in martial arts. Which all of them are, and I have a huge amount of respect for all of them. And that is what this entry is about. Martial arts incorporates a different mindset and lifestyle, at least to those who are Masters. And it’s one I’m developing. It’s one of a fierce determination that defines who they are. They decide early on to become a master. And it carries over into their entire lives.

  • They are the ones who reach for the stars and reach them.
  • They set one goal after another and reach them.
  • They do things differently than others around them and it shows up in their relationships.
  • The friends they have realize they are friends, no guessing “am I a friend or not.”

A month ago, today, I was a victim of a hit & run accident while walking. In the subsequent weeks since then it has been my friends in martial arts for the most part than have been there when I was hurting, either emotionally or physically or a combination of the two. I can (and do) go to them for advice without any hesitation at all. I see them as much as friends as leaders. I love calling James, Don, Esau and Reggie friends. All of them are wonderful.

If you want an exercise program, martial arts in FANTASTIC, but as you get involved in it, be aware that a great school will incorporate a lot more than a tough workout. It will incorporate a new mindset as well for you to embrace. Do you want to see what I mean? Check out the movie “The Martial Arts Kid” starring Don “The Dragon” Wilson, Cynthia “Lady Dragon” Rothrock, TJ Storm and several other true martial artists. It is available through Traditionz Entertainment, as well as on Amazon and other venues as well. The producers connected to Traditionz are my wonderful friends Anita Clay (who is an AMAZING actress to be watching for as well), James Wilson, Cynthia “Lady Dragon” Rothrock, and Don “The Dragon” Wilson. As I talk to James, Don and Anita I have learned that they really want martial arts to be more than just a way to fight. Don Wilson said in response to a comment I made about “The Martial Arts Kid” this: “The Study of the Martial Arts involves more than just the fighting aspect….and the only time to use it is to defend others or yourself. It is not for Bullying others!” And this is so true!

 

 

Being the Best

Being the Best

In life, we have the good, the better and the best. But then we have the best of the best. What sets the best of the best apart? In Martial Arts, we have black belts. Only 1 in 10,000 will reach black belt in martial arts. I don’t know the exact number, but I would be willing to bet that 1 in 25,000 reach the level of Grandmaster in Martial Arts. I have a bunch of friends who are black belts. But I can count on both hands the number of friends I have, that I talk to regularly, who are Grandmasters:

  • Reggie Cochran
  • Esau McKnight
  • Don “The Dragon” Wilson
  • James Wilson
  • Marian Kirby
  • Ted Gambordella
  • Chris Howard
  • Brian Brewer
  • Jay Blanton

Plus a few others. By the same token, I have friends in network marketing that are amazing leaders, but then I have those friends who are those who lead the leaders.

  • Reggie Cochran
  • Christian Gingras and his wife Tammy Sellars-Gingras
  • Alan & Jean Sickman
  • Tony & Sarah Zolecki
  • Rick & Michelle Teague
  • Alex Monterrosa

Did you notice who is on both lists? Dr. Reggie Cochran, he is not only a world champion in martial arts, 8th Degree Black belt in the Chuck Norris System, he is also Diamond in Max International. I am incredibly blessed to call Reggie one of my closest friends. My friend James Wilson, who is also a producer in Los Angeles, California told me as I was researching this idea “A Grandmaster should have many decades of experience, be a good teacher, have a calm, confident manner, and a desire to help others master their art, and perhaps even become better than they are.” James is truly one of the best of the best! And I’ve noticed this about all the people who are the best of the best. All the people I have listed here have been doing their trades, whether in martial arts or network marketing, or both for MANY years. In many cases for over 20 years.  Does this mean you shouldn’t have someone who is new, or only has a year or two of training under them? NO! But you should make sure that he or she has someone who is training them who does meet this qualification. If they are learning from someone who is a “top gun” then he or she will also develop the right skills.

To the leaders who read this: something I posted on Facebook a couple of weeks ago, one piece of advice: don’t quit on someone that you see is trying, even if they don’t accomplish much for a while. Just keep encouraging them to improve and eventually it will pay off. Sometimes the person who partners with you may not accomplish much outwardly, but inwardly he or she is paying attention. And in time, it will pay off in ways that you can’t even imagine! But some advice as well: NEVER tell someone they are not smart enough to be successful. Some things will come from it:

  • He or she will quit your team, but not necessarily your company. That person will find a leader who is willing to take time and teach him or her.
  • He or she may end up quitting your company, but then will probably join another company and be a Rockstar in the next company
    • think about lost profits had you been patient with him or her and given that person the time they needed to grow into the leader he or she wanted to be
    • Also, think about this: who is this person connected to? Even if he or she isn’t a Rockstar, he or she may know people that could be. And those people will join him or her. Which will lead to those Rockstars as he or she grows. And he or she, as a result of the people he or she hangs out with, will become a Rockstar too.

In closing, remember this: you are like the 5 people you spend the most time with. Are you hanging out with leaders, or thos

Are You Caged In?

Are You Caged In?

Mohini was a magnificent white tiger that lived in the US’s National Zoo in Washington DC in the 1960s. Mohini was a special gift presented to the US president Eisenhower, and the US people. The Zoo started a major project to build a large enclosure for Mohini, their star attraction. The enclosure would simulate Mohini’s natural habitat as closely as possible. It would have many acres of lush forest with rolling hills and a large pond. It would be Mohini playground for her to stretch and express her natural self as one of nature’s most splendid and powerful creatures. Meanwhile, while the large enclosure was being built, Mohini was kept in a 12 x 12 feet cage with iron bars and cement floor. Mohini would pace around ceaselessly in this cage while her eventual home was being built. Finally, the enclosure was completed and the big day of releasing Mohini into it had arrived. A large excited crowd had gathered to witness this much awaited event. To everyone’s surprise, instead of frolicking in joy in her new sprawling enclosure, Mohini headed straight for a perimeter wall at the enclosure’s edge. At the wall, Mohini started to pace around in an imaginary cage, just like the way she had while waiting for the enclosure to be build. Mohini stayed in this tiny corner at the wall for the remainder of her life, oblivious to the freedom and choices she had.

How many of us live our lives in a cage like Mohini lived in? We deserve more! A lot more!!! So what can you do? Yesterday in church my pastor talked about this. There are 4 things that can help he taught.

  1. Redeem the routines. What are you doing that allow time to be redeemed? Are you getting ready for the day? Listen to a audiobook. Are you driving  for 20-30 minutes? Same thing. Get creative. And have fun with this.
  2. Reduce the hurry in life. Slow down and make some time in your schedule to just rest. Carl Jung said “Hurry is not of the devil, hurry is the devil.” And he is right on target!
  3. Regularly meditate the Word. Yes, I said the Word. Go beyond meditating on the word to really thinking on The Word itself. You will be amazed at the results you get!
  4. Finally,  review and renew life paths. Is what you’re doing working? If it isn’t maybe it’s time to change some things. Failure is only failure if you quit. You can change how you do things as often as you need to.