Tag: Choices

Story of Two Wolves

Story of Two Wolves

This is a lesson from my dojo, Top Form Karate & Fitness:

An old man told his grandson:

“My son, there’s a battle between two wolves inside us all.

One is Evil.

It’s anger, jealousy, greed, resentment, inferiority, lies and ego.

The other is Good.

It’s joy, peace, love, hope, humility, kindness & truth.”

The boy thought about it, and asked:

“Grandfather, which wolf wins?”

The old man quietly replied:

“The one you feed.”


Winner With An Attitude!

Winner With An Attitude!

I’m a winner! And you can be a winner also. What sets me apart from you? Only 1 thing: my attitude. I am resilient. I get setbacks and at times I even get sidelined from what I want because of my own attitude or sometimes from the actions of others. Such as when I was hit by a car in December of 2016. That was in no way my fault. I was following directions. That part of it was not my fault. But here’s the thing: that accident was caused by someone else. But I could have taken a defeated mentality and quit school and working in martial arts. And no one would have blamed me. But my mentality won’t allow me to quit.

So, how do you develop a mentality like this? On Monday I gave some suggestions. But here are some more.

  1. Focus on your passions.
  2. Think positively. What you think on will eventually come to pass. Sometimes quickly, other times slowly: but nonetheless, it will happen.
  3. Don’t act impulsively on your emotions. Take some time and think things through.
  4. Commit to what you want. Don’t allow quitting to be an option.
  5. Don’t ever stop being true to yourself.
  6. Commit to no more excuses. Decide that you will until…
  7. Surround yourself with winners. This will mean that you will need to let people go.
  8. Visualize yourself with what you want. If you can see it in your head, you will get it.
  9. Be mature. In other words: grow up. Here’s a video that can help. Jim Rohn: A Winning Attitude (Jim Rohn motivation)

Service Excellence


JuSt SToP!!!!!

JuSt SToP!!!!!

Last night I was on a call with my awesome friend Jackie Wilson, who is also an amazing leader. She talked about how to win and gave 5 things to do to be a winner. It was tied into our company, but the strategies she gave applies to every area of our lives. To become a winner in any area, you need to have a winner’s attitude and that ties directly into our mindset.  

Here are her 5 tips:

  1. “Stop looking at yourself negatively.” (You can do whatever you think you can!) It goes to the saying “If you think you can, or think you can’t: your right! Start seeing yourself in a positive way.
  2. “How strong is your “why?”” If your why is strong enough: you will overcome any challenge!
  3. “Stop listening to lies!”
    1. Make it a priority!
    2. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable!
    3. When your backbone gets bigger than your wishbone, and you add confidence: LOOK OUT!!!!
  4. Stop saying “I don’t have what it takes!” YOU DO TOO!!!!
    1. “We make plans”
    2. “We run our plans!”
    3. “We attend events!” Get around successful people for a few days and see how it changes your attitude! I’m going to one on Oct. 20th and 21st. Want to join me? It’s going to be a blast! I’ve also got one I’m going to next July for martial arts!
    4. “We read personal development!”
      1. Want a list??? I have one!
    5. “We don’t talk negative!” Remember: trash in, trash out: positive in, positive out.
    6. “We get out of our own way!”
      1. “Tap into your own greatness!”
    7. “Deal with the ego!”
      1. Deal with it if it’s causing problems! (Hint: most ego issues do cause problems!)

Do your best

If you want to know more about the event I’m attending, reply and let’s talk. You can also find me on Facebook at Malissa Elkins Van Zee. Or my professional page: Malissa Carole.

If you don’t know Jesus and have the power of the Holy Spirit, I invite you to pray this:

Lord Jesus, I acknowledge and confess with my mouth that You are Lord. I believe in my heart that God raised You from the dead. I thank You that I am now saved from my sins and can look forward to spending eternity with you. I ask You to give me the Holy Spirit with the gifts that come with this decision. Help me to develop a winner mindset and give me victory over everything I battle. In Jesus Name, Amen.

I encourage you to get lessons on how to live this new life by going through these teachings from Kenneth Copeland: http://www.kcm.org/believers-academy/topic/foundational-teachings

Down with Complaining!

Down with Complaining!

Face it!  No one likes a complainer! But yet day after day we all hear people complaining! Last night on my company’s call we have every Monday my amazing friend Michelle Barnes put out a challenge: No complaining for 7 days. I decided to take this challenge and decided to take it one step further: I passed this challenge on to others by sharing it on Facebook. As of right now 25 people have “liked/loved” it and 10 have commented on it. This number will go up. Of the comments 7 have said they are going to do it at least for 1 day.

This is a tough challenge, but what kind of lives do people live who choose to be positive? According to the Mayo clinic, being positive includes these benefits:

  • Increased life span
  • Lower rates of depression
  • Lower levels of distress
  • Greater resistance to the common cold
  • Better psychological and physical well-being
  • Better cardiovascular health and reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease
  • Better coping skills during hardships and times of stress


So, how do we avoid negative talk? The article I read on this from Mayo gave some great strategies to do this!

  • Identify areas you tend to be negative in and find a way to be positive in it.
  • Check yourself: periodically during the day stop and evaluate what you’re If your thoughts are negative, find a positive within it.
  • Find humor!
  • Follow a healthy lifestyle: eat healthy (I can help if you’re ready for it), exercise for 30 minutes. You can also break this up into 3-10-minute chunks.
  • Surround yourself with positive people.
  • Practice positive self-talk. Don’t say anything to yourself that you wouldn’t say to anyone else.

For Winner Wednesday, I’ll develop this further, so stay tuned!


Complaining word with a line

Making Excuses

Making Excuses

People have been making excuses since the days of Adam. Adam & Eve had the first excuses: Genesis 3:11-13 Who told you that you were naked?” the Lord God asked. “Have you eaten from the tree whose fruit I commanded you not to eat?” The man replied, “It was the woman you gave me who gave me the fruit, and I ate it.” Then the Lord God asked the woman, “What have you done?” “The serpent deceived me,” she replied. “That’s why I ate it.”

How often do you come up with an excuse for what you want to avoid (including avoid trouble)? I’m too tired to work out. Or how about this one: It costs too much to eat healthy. Humans in general avoid situations they think will be uncomfortable. The trouble with excuses is it will keep you from experiencing the life you want.

I’m pursuing my dreams. But to do this, I’ve had to drop my excuses. And I’ve chosen instead to find a way. If you want to continue making excuses for why you don’t have the life you want, feel free. But, if you want a life that your dreams become reality, then you will have to drop your excuses.

In choosing to become a leader, I’ve had to quit making excuses. What if Jesus had come up with excuses when He was walking the earth on his earthy ministry? Jesus is my ultimate leader. I look at His works and how He handled all kinds of situations as I learn to do this. One thing Jesus didn’t tolerate at all was excuses. And He didn’t come up with excuses when He didn’t want to do something either.

What if Jesus had come up with an excuse for not going to the cross? I’m thankful that He didn’t! My point is this: stop coming up with excuses. And go after the life you want.








Dream on, don’t stop.

Don’t give up, keep on going,

You can do this.

I gave up once, but then…

New friends,

New leaders,

They became one…

My friends are my leaders


When your friends become your leaders

You discover a drive that wasn’t there before!

It comes from their heart to yours

You wouldn’t want to let them down

So, you can’t quit!

In this you discover a love for something

And within that love you get a drive that pushes you further than you ever thought possible.


It becomes a part of you.

You can’t quit dreaming,

You dream more

                And bigger




Fact and Fiction: Vegetarian Lifestyle

Fact and Fiction: Vegetarian Lifestyle

One of the things I’ve been learning about is the vegetarian lifestyle. This blog and next week’s blog will focus on this lifestyle. Today, I want to dispel some of the myths surrounding it. There are many, but I’m only going to talk about 6 and answer 3 questions about it.

Myth: You can’t get enough protein from plants.

Fact: lentils, beans, nuts, seeds and almond milk are excellent sources of protein.

Myths: Your workout routine will suffer

Fact: A vegetarian diet will give you the energy you need if you keep your protein and vitamin B12 levels high enough. And my friends Dana Arcuri and Shannon Cleary have told me that they have excellent B12 levels. Both very much die-hard vegetarians.

Myth: It guarantees weight loss

Fact: Being a vegetarian does not guarantee weight loss, if you are eating processed foods the odds of you losing weight is slim. Weight loss occurs when you follow a healthy diet without processed foods.

Myth: Only liberals are vegetarians.

Fact: I have friends who are liberals, conservatives, and in the middle who are vegetarians.

Myth: It costs too much!

Fact: Meat is expensive! And if you eliminate meat from your diet, you will save money.

Myth: It must be all or none

Fact: Trimming your meat habit even a little can cut your risk of cancer, diabetes and heart disease. On my previous entries on the Mediterranean Diet I talked about this. We would all be healthier if we cut meat (especially red meat) to 2 or 3 times a month.

Questions I have been asked, or I asked myself regarding this:

  1. With the quality of our food today how does one eat healthy enough to actually nourish ones body?

Answer: when the vegetarian lifestyle is followed correctly, you can get all the nourishment you need from it. Next Thursday I will show a 1-week meal plan based on the vegetarian lifestyle.

  1. What about B-12? Can I only get that from meats?

Answer: No, you can get it from fortified foods or from a supplement. There are times and lifestyles where a supplement is absolutely needed. This is one of them.

  1. Doesn’t the vegetarian lifestyle get boring? I don’t want to eat just salad all the time.

Answer:  I’ve been looking up recipes to develop a week-long eating plan, I’ve been surprised to see all the choices available! This lifestyle is anything but boring!