People have been making excuses since the days of Adam. Adam & Eve had the first excuses: Genesis 3:11-13 Who told you that you were naked?” the Lord God asked. “Have you eaten from the tree whose fruit I commanded you not to eat?” The man replied, “It was the woman you gave me who gave me the fruit, and I ate it.” Then the Lord God asked the woman, “What have you done?” “The serpent deceived me,” she replied. “That’s why I ate it.”
How often do you come up with an excuse for what you want to avoid (including avoid trouble)? I’m too tired to work out. Or how about this one: It costs too much to eat healthy. Humans in general avoid situations they think will be uncomfortable. The trouble with excuses is it will keep you from experiencing the life you want.
I’m pursuing my dreams. But to do this, I’ve had to drop my excuses. And I’ve chosen instead to find a way. If you want to continue making excuses for why you don’t have the life you want, feel free. But, if you want a life that your dreams become reality, then you will have to drop your excuses.
In choosing to become a leader, I’ve had to quit making excuses. What if Jesus had come up with excuses when He was walking the earth on his earthy ministry? Jesus is my ultimate leader. I look at His works and how He handled all kinds of situations as I learn to do this. One thing Jesus didn’t tolerate at all was excuses. And He didn’t come up with excuses when He didn’t want to do something either.
What if Jesus had come up with an excuse for not going to the cross? I’m thankful that He didn’t! My point is this: stop coming up with excuses. And go after the life you want.
I’m serious. You see me tell names like Reggie Cochran, Andrea Harkins, Don “The Dragon” Wilson, Tony Zolecki and many others on this blog. What sets all of us apart from the people who are “the silent majority?” Are we smarter? Or more talented? Or somehow special in a way that you can’t be? You know what, I am smart. And the people I just listed are smart!
But more than that, we are determined! We decided that we were going to follow the Law of Victory I talked about on Monday. If you haven’t read that blog, you need to. Determination will carry anyone further than talent. I’m living proof of it.
In high school, I struggled in science. But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve become more determined. And now I’m in college studying a program dominated by science. And I’m getting excellent grades in it. I’m on track to graduate with honors next year. Do you think it’s become smarter or more determined?
A winner is someone who doesn’t quit. One of the things I know as a fact is that hard work will beat talent every single time. You may have a talent, but if you don’t use it, someone with half the talent you have will come out on top every single time if you don’t use it.
So, here is your challenge: become determined to have the life you want. And be willing to put in the hard work needed to have the life you want. And don’t ever quit! Become QuitProof! You can do it!
Last night I was on a call with my amazing friend & leader: Tony Zolecki who is an amazing husband, father, visionary, and friend and servant leader to everyone who knows him. He told 9 points for setting up a strategy that will lead you to success. His 9 points were well worth repeating.
- There is no losing! You are either winning or learning!
- You gotta commit to the skills. Learn less, study more. Learn a skill, master it, then apply it!
- Habits: Form new habits and become their slaves! (Og Mandino)
- Learn a baseline behavior. Move forward.
- Get out of I should and move into I must!
- Associations & environments: raise your standard! Surround yourself with excellence! Position yourself! Get around people who are striving for excellence. Feed your mind with positivity!
- Give yourself radical permission to think bigger! Your potential is limitless! But you have to step into it! Each night ask yourself: What percentage are you operating at? How can you get better? Ignore the masses! Think bigger!
- Do the high income producing activities! If you want to know what they are, let’s talk.
- Let it go! Don’t hold on to old hurts. Don’t allow others to control your happiness. Make a list of the things that are holding you back. Look at it. Address it. Then let it go! And replace it with the positive!
- Create a crazy vision! The one that makes people go wow! And make it crystal clear! If you can see it, you can do it.
- Create your game plan! What do you need to do? What does your team need to do? Get some discipline and make the time!
Welcome to part 2 of this series on martial arts. How often have you wished that you had more energy so you could have more success in your life? One of the things I love when I’m working out is how I can go into a class tired, but come out energized! And also empowered!
There are some very physical reasons that contribute to having energy after working out, but for today, I’m just going to leave it at this: your body loves it when you exercise and it will pay you back with more energy if you expend some energy. If you doubt me, go take a class for a month and see if you don’t have more energy at the end of the month that you do at the beginning of the month.
Do you want to feel empowered? Martial arts can help with this also! Imagine the confidence you would have if you knew that going into any situation you would emerge victorious. Maybe you live in an area that has gang problems. Or maybe you live in a home that you don’t feel safe in. Something else I’ve realized in myself since I started training is that I have the confidence to take on things that that I normally would not have.
In the past 2 weeks I’ve talked about several different reasons to get into martial arts. Next week, I’m going to close this part out by describing some of the different styles of martial arts. Some are Chinese based, others are Japanese, some are Korean, and there are also American styles. I’ll describe some of them. It would be nearly impossible to tell about all of them. But this will give you a starting point as you consider joining this family.
What does it mean to live clean? Can it be done affordably? One of the most common things I hear is that “I can’t afford to live clean.” My favorite personal care products are affordable. And you can even save $10 on your initial order. At the end of this I’ll tell you how you can even get them for free! (YES, I said FREE!).
But, first, what does it mean to live clean? I define it this way: living in such a way that your mind and body and environment are free from anything dirty or unhealthy. To accomplish this, it is important to pay attention to how you talk, what you eat, drink, and put in or on your body. This also applies to the cleaning products in our homes. A little-known fact is that cleaning products can be absorbed into our skin. So, what we use in our homes is just as important as what we use on our bodies. I’m going to touch on all these areas, but today I’m going to talk about assumptions
Some assumptions are good, but others are bad. I have heard people say things like “I can’t afford to eat organic” or “I think what I’m using is fine” or when it comes to a certain diet, “My doctor wouldn’t approve.”
My question for you is this: Have you shown your doctor what you want to do? Or are you assuming? Based on the people I talk to; my hunch is you are mostly assuming. Sometimes it is okay to assume. We make assumptions all the time. We assume that if we drink alcohol we will get into a car accident. We assume that if we get a college degree we will automatically get a job because of it. We assume if we eat junk food we will be okay. How many other assumptions have you made? I’d love to know. Please, put this in the comments. As you can see here, some assumptions are healthy, such as drinking and driving. But others are not good, such as thinking that eating junk food on a regular basis is okay. You may be okay doing this for a little while, even for several years. But, over time science has shown that this can have a major impact on your health.
Next week I’m going to talk about junk food and healthy alternatives. This will be a follow-up to what I’m talking about on Thursday, which is certain diets. So, you will want to stay tuned!
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What do your priorities look like? Do you have things set up correctly? I am a Christian and that does dictate my priorities to a large degree. My priorities are listed this way:
- God: If I expect Him to direct my steps then I have to listen to what He says to me.
- Myself! Yes, I put myself as a priority. How can I handle anything else if I’m not taking care of myself?
- Priority setting. Is what I’m actively doing taking care of me?
- Health: Am I eating what I need to eat to be in the best physical shape I can be in?
- Exercise: What am I doing on a daily basis to get off the chair/bed/couch?
- Mental health: What am I doing to keep my mind healthy?
- That includes having some fun! So what am I doing just for fun?
- Growing: I am a learner, I love to learn new things! And this is a priority for me. I am also learning to teach others more effectively!
- Meditation/relaxation time. This is a little different than prayer. While I do pray, I also take time to just rest and quiet my mind and literally do nothing for a few minutes every day.
- Positive affirmations: An incredibly important part of my day. I do it typically first thing every morning.
- My kids come next. They are still growing up and I make sure they get what they need.
- My husband. I’ve been told that I need to have him over my kids, but circumstances that I won’t tell here dictate that my kids come before him.
- My career. I am a writer and an entrepreneur. If I expect my work to be done, I have to make sure that I do the work. I don’t have a boss, except my calendar. If I expect my goals to be met, I have to do the work. In my work time I have certain things that I have to make sure I get done.
- Goal setting! I can’t reach goals that haven’t been set.
- Writing. I am writing a novel. It won’t write itself, so I have to do the work.
- Education: I am expanding what I’m doing. I’m in school at Kaplan University. Study time is important and as such, it is a priority.
When I first decided to change my own life I was thinking, “can I do this? What if I’m not smart enough? What if I fail?” But along the way I met people who said, “what if you try?” And eventually I started trying something new. I am still trying new things. And in fact, one of the new things I’m doing is going back to school. And I’m getting a 98% in one class and a 99% in my other class. And I still have some projects to finish, plus 1 final exam. My friend, try something new. Need help? I’m here…