This is from a note I posted on Facebook on June 4, 2017 and I’m doing an impromptu repost of it here.
When I was a girl I had a lot of struggles. I had a hard time remembering things and would struggle to learn the most basic things in school. Doing things like putting a puzzle together or writing was hard. My mom was wonderful growing up. She made sure I got the help I needed. One summer stands out as one of the best summers of my life. From 1975 to 1977 my Mom, my brother Glenn, and I were living near Eglin Air Force Base in Florida. I had a teacher named Mrs. Bullock. To this day, she stands out as one of my favorite teachers ever. The summer of 1976 stands out. Almost every day, I would go to see Mrs. Bullock. We would go to the beach and collect seashells. When we felt like we had enough, we went to her house and I took all those seashells and glued them on a bottle she had. During that time, we would talk and I think, looking back now, it was a way that I got speech and occupational therapy. The bottle has been lost for many years now, but the memories of that summer remain. Looking back now, I learned a lot more that summer than how to decorate a bottle with seashells. I learned to trust people outside of my home. And I also learned about changes. Prior to this I had my mom, dad, who was gone a lot and that particular time frame he was in Panama, and Glenn. Plus, a nanny when I was little and we lived in Germany. We had moved there when I was barely a month old and lived there until I was almost 6. This was from 1968 to 1972. That summer of 1976 I learned to change. I learned that I can do things that are hard and saw that I can be successful. After that summer passed I had Mrs. Bullock as a teacher again for the second grade. She continued to work with me doing puzzles and talking about different things. Over the two years that I had Mrs. Bullock in my life, I grew by leaps and bounds.
Flash forward to 2011. I had grown up, graduated from high school started college, but quit just prior to graduating because I thought I was close to graduating and I had thought that I was done. Another lesson learned. Make sure that you are on track to complete your task. Track your activities. This goes directly with changing. That year I spent most of my time sick. By November, I was hitting rock bottom. One day I was home and sitting on the edge of my bed crying. I told God to either take me home or help me get better. I was married, had 4 kids that I home-schooled. All of which were going for speech therapy, three were going for occupational therapy, and one was going for physical therapy as well almost every day of the week. This had been going on since 1998. I didn’t want to die, but I truly felt like I was. That day I started following Dr. Don Colbert on Facebook. And while I was very quiet for several months, I was paying attention. In March of 2012 I started asking questions that would begin to help me recover. Over time as I followed his advice, I began to get better. In 2013, I joined a network marketing company and began to learn how to see my life could be better by the people I allowed into it. During this time, I became friends with the man who eventually would become my sponsor in the network marketing company I am now in. His name is Chad Statham. He showed me how to make healthy friends (without ever telling me this directly). He also taught me what the difference is between a good leader and a great leader. A good leader will say he cares and will show it from time to time. A great leader will consistently show he or she cares. I learned this from my amazing friend and leader, Reggie Cochran as well. As I look back and remember Mrs. Bullock, she taught me this also. She showed me she cared. So, did Reggie and Chad. It’s one thing to say you care. It’s a different story to show you care. This is lesson number two. For things to change, you must show you care more about others than yourself. It’s not about money. I’ve seen this in the people that Chad and Reggie have as leaders as well. Which leads to lesson three in changing.
In the bible, Jesus grew in wisdom and in stature. With favor with God and man. This is found in Luke 2:52. To grow in favor with man, you must have compassion. If you want things to change in life, compassion must dominate your character. There is a saying I love by Teddy Roosevelt, “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” The leaders I have are the most compassionate people I’ve ever met. That is what makes them incredible leaders. Herman White, Tony & Sarah Zolecki, Rick & Michelle Teague, John & Nadya Melton, Reggie and Terry Cochran, Crystal Meisner, Anita Clay, Gena Norris, Chris Lianos, Jeff Lord, Barb Hollace, Annie Berryhill, Loretta Monteiro, and several others are my leaders. I call them my leaders purely because they truly care. And have more compassion than anyone I know. It has nothing to do with how much money they have. It has everything to do with how much they care. This has been the dominating factor in who I count as leaders. It’s not about religion. I am a Christian, but not all the people I consider my leaders are. Do you want to be a leader? Show compassion and the followers will come. But also, be kind. Be willing to be there, even when it’s inconvenient. And finally, be open to change. Because to be a leader, you must be open to change. Even when it isn’t easy. This picture is of Chad and I. It was taken in June of 2014.