Tag: Anita Clay

Why Did I Decide What I Did?

Why Did I Decide What I Did?

I chose martial arts initially because Reggie Cochran suggested it. But what has made me stick with it? In the past few weeks my followers on this blog has increased dramatically, as a result some of you may not know why I do this.

I became friends with Reggie back in 2013. Within 6 or 8 months I was talking to him a lot more. And found out that he was a counselor and on the advice of my doctor began to confide in him a lot more in an effort to get my life going a more positive direction.

He began to teach me how to be a professional in many areas. But he also began to talk to me about how martial arts could help me too. How it would help me develop more confidence. How I would lose weight. Among many other things, including getting me around more positive people.

Last December 13, I was hit by a car and this has forced me to take a leave of absence from martial arts. But during this time, I have also become more determined than ever to reach black belt.

Why black belt? The primary reason is that I want to become successful in this because people have told me I need to quit. A second reason is I am not brave enough to tell my friends such as Andrea Harkins, Don “The Dragon” Wilson, James Wilson, Anita Clay, Marian Kirby, Dr. Ted Gambordella, Gena Norris, Reggie, Dan Ross, Debbie Goodman and MANY others who are world class martial artists. These people are among the ones I have more respect for than anyone.

One of the favorite parts of martial arts is the support I have received from the people I have listed above. All of them, plus others, are the absolute best. There is a reason they are black belts: they earned it, not only in their activities but also in their character. They have incredible character. It’s just amazing!

They are loyal, hardworking, trustworthy, honest, kind, and many other things. Finding a group of friends like this is rare and I consider myself blessed to have them in my life.  If you are looking for a way to improve your life: I highly recommend you consider this. This picture is of a movie that Don “The Dragon” Wilson starred in called The Martial Arts Kid.  It’s one of my all time favorite movies.  His brother, James, is one of the producers.



The Desire to Change

The Desire to Change

This is from a note I posted on Facebook on June 4, 2017 and I’m doing an impromptu repost of it here.

When I was a girl I had a lot of struggles. I had a hard time remembering things and would struggle to learn the most basic things in school. Doing things like putting a puzzle together or writing was hard. My mom was wonderful growing up. She made sure I got the help I needed. One summer stands out as one of the best summers of my life. From 1975 to 1977 my Mom, my brother Glenn, and I were living near Eglin Air Force Base in Florida. I had a teacher named Mrs. Bullock. To this day, she stands out as one of my favorite teachers ever. The summer of 1976 stands out. Almost every day, I would go to see Mrs. Bullock. We would go to the beach and collect seashells. When we felt like we had enough, we went to her house and I took all those seashells and glued them on a bottle she had. During that time, we would talk and I think, looking back now, it was a way that I got speech and occupational therapy. The bottle has been lost for many years now, but the memories of that summer remain. Looking back now, I learned a lot more that summer than how to decorate a bottle with seashells. I learned to trust people outside of my home. And I also learned about changes. Prior to this I had my mom, dad, who was gone a lot and that particular time frame he was in Panama, and Glenn. Plus, a nanny when I was little and we lived in Germany. We had moved there when I was barely a month old and lived there until I was almost 6. This was from 1968 to 1972. That summer of 1976 I learned to change. I learned that I can do things that are hard and saw that I can be successful. After that summer passed I had Mrs. Bullock as a teacher again for the second grade. She continued to work with me doing puzzles and talking about different things. Over the two years that I had Mrs. Bullock in my life, I grew by leaps and bounds.
Flash forward to 2011. I had grown up, graduated from high school started college, but quit just prior to graduating because I thought I was close to graduating and I had thought that I was done. Another lesson learned. Make sure that you are on track to complete your task. Track your activities. This goes directly with changing. That year I spent most of my time sick. By November, I was hitting rock bottom. One day I was home and sitting on the edge of my bed crying. I told God to either take me home or help me get better. I was married, had 4 kids that I home-schooled. All of which were going for speech therapy, three were going for occupational therapy, and one was going for physical therapy as well almost every day of the week. This had been going on since 1998. I didn’t want to die, but I truly felt like I was. That day I started following Dr. Don Colbert on Facebook. And while I was very quiet for several months, I was paying attention. In March of 2012 I started asking questions that would begin to help me recover. Over time as I followed his advice, I began to get better. In 2013, I joined a network marketing company and began to learn how to see my life could be better by the people I allowed into it. During this time, I became friends with the man who eventually would become my sponsor in the network marketing company I am now in. His name is Chad Statham. He showed me how to make healthy friends (without ever telling me this directly). He also taught me what the difference is between a good leader and a great leader. A good leader will say he cares and will show it from time to time. A great leader will consistently show he or she cares. I learned this from my amazing friend and leader, Reggie Cochran as well. As I look back and remember Mrs. Bullock, she taught me this also. She showed me she cared. So, did Reggie and Chad. It’s one thing to say you care. It’s a different story to show you care. This is lesson number two. For things to change, you must show you care more about others than yourself. It’s not about money. I’ve seen this in the people that Chad and Reggie have as leaders as well. Which leads to lesson three in changing.
In the bible, Jesus grew in wisdom and in stature. With favor with God and man. This is found in Luke 2:52. To grow in favor with man, you must have compassion. If you want things to change in life, compassion must dominate your character. There is a saying I love by Teddy Roosevelt, “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” The leaders I have are the most compassionate people I’ve ever met. That is what makes them incredible leaders. Herman White, Tony & Sarah Zolecki, Rick & Michelle Teague, John & Nadya Melton, Reggie and Terry Cochran, Crystal Meisner, Anita Clay, Gena Norris, Chris Lianos, Jeff Lord, Barb Hollace, Annie Berryhill, Loretta Monteiro, and several others are my leaders. I call them my leaders purely because they truly care. And have more compassion than anyone I know. It has nothing to do with how much money they have. It has everything to do with how much they care. This has been the dominating factor in who I count as leaders. It’s not about religion. I am a Christian, but not all the people I consider my leaders are. Do you want to be a leader? Show compassion and the followers will come. But also, be kind. Be willing to be there, even when it’s inconvenient. And finally, be open to change. Because to be a leader, you must be open to change. Even when it isn’t easy. This picture is of Chad and I. It was taken in June of 2014.
Chad and I
Martial Arts: Break What YOU Believe!

Martial Arts: Break What YOU Believe!

Today, I am beginning a 3-part series on martial arts. Disclaimer: I am not a black belt, yet. But I have a lot of friends who are black belts in this. One of my new friends is nick-named “The Martial Art’s Woman.” Her name is Andrea Harkins. Other friends are Anita Clay, who not a black belt, yet, but is a fantastic actress in action films. One of her more recent movies is called “Paying Mr. McGetty.” In this movie, she plays with another friend of mine, Don “The Dragon” Wilson. If you don’t know who he is, you should look him up. Plus, James Wilson, and Reggie Cochran. And MANY others.

Today, I want to suggest something. We hear about how good martial arts is for children. But have you considered why adults should do this? Some of this came from Andrea Harkins’ blog. Which can be found here: The Martial Arts Woman. Andrea gives 4 compelling reasons for adults to do martial arts related to perspective. One, is if you have a poor perception about what you believe about yourself, martial arts can help. It can help you be stronger emotionally and you will realize you are stronger. This will carry over into your life in general. There are 6 principles that are taught in martial arts:

  1. Indomitable spirit
  2. Humility
  3. Focus
  4. Discipline
  5. Determination
  6. Integrity

But today’s blog is about exercise. But, is martial arts about exercise, fighting, or self-defense? It’s about all 3! In a good school, you will get a fantastic workout! But you also get lessons in self-defense: which involves fighting. Hopefully, that need won’t ever come up. But if it does, you will learn how to handle it. One of the things that I’ve learned is that your self-esteem will improve. The reason for this is simple: you will be asked to do things that you are not certain you can do. For example, one of the things I was taught to do is to break a board. I did it! And when I did, it was a HUGE confidence booster. A second thing I was told to do is do a running side kick into a dummy. As your self-esteem increases, you become a better version of you. In this series, I want to challenge you: if you want to become a better version of yourself, get started in martial arts! The picture below is of myself, Kathy Long, and my daughter Mary at a self-defense seminar we attended in Dallas, Texas in April of 2016.

Coming up: Energy and success in martial arts.



Martial Arts…Just Another Exercise Program?

Martial Arts…Just Another Exercise Program?

Dr. Reggie Cochran, Chuck Norris, Aaron Norris, Don “The Dragon” Wilson, Cynthia “Lady Dragon” Rothrock, James Wilson, and Esau McKnight: all world famous martial artists. But as I’ve gotten to know several people on this list I’ve seen more to them than just being Masters in martial arts. Which all of them are, and I have a huge amount of respect for all of them. And that is what this entry is about. Martial arts incorporates a different mindset and lifestyle, at least to those who are Masters. And it’s one I’m developing. It’s one of a fierce determination that defines who they are. They decide early on to become a master. And it carries over into their entire lives.

  • They are the ones who reach for the stars and reach them.
  • They set one goal after another and reach them.
  • They do things differently than others around them and it shows up in their relationships.
  • The friends they have realize they are friends, no guessing “am I a friend or not.”

A month ago, today, I was a victim of a hit & run accident while walking. In the subsequent weeks since then it has been my friends in martial arts for the most part than have been there when I was hurting, either emotionally or physically or a combination of the two. I can (and do) go to them for advice without any hesitation at all. I see them as much as friends as leaders. I love calling James, Don, Esau and Reggie friends. All of them are wonderful.

If you want an exercise program, martial arts in FANTASTIC, but as you get involved in it, be aware that a great school will incorporate a lot more than a tough workout. It will incorporate a new mindset as well for you to embrace. Do you want to see what I mean? Check out the movie “The Martial Arts Kid” starring Don “The Dragon” Wilson, Cynthia “Lady Dragon” Rothrock, TJ Storm and several other true martial artists. It is available through Traditionz Entertainment, as well as on Amazon and other venues as well. The producers connected to Traditionz are my wonderful friends Anita Clay (who is an AMAZING actress to be watching for as well), James Wilson, Cynthia “Lady Dragon” Rothrock, and Don “The Dragon” Wilson. As I talk to James, Don and Anita I have learned that they really want martial arts to be more than just a way to fight. Don Wilson said in response to a comment I made about “The Martial Arts Kid” this: “The Study of the Martial Arts involves more than just the fighting aspect….and the only time to use it is to defend others or yourself. It is not for Bullying others!” And this is so true!



Lessons From Producers: Creating a New YOU!

Lessons From Producers: Creating a New YOU!

I have a few friends on Facebook who are Producers in the movie industry in Los Angeles, California. Namely, James Wilson, his brother Don “The Dragon” Wilson, and Anita Clay. All 3 are amazing! They are producers for Traditionz Entertainment, along with the amazing Cynthia Rothrock. In the process of talking to Anita and James, who are amazing friends as well, I’ve gleaned a little about how they create movies. One of the things they have to do is what I’m going to talk about today. They have to create the characters in the movies. What do they look like? Are they good or bad? What do they do for a living? All the details that go into a movie. What does that have to do with you and living clean? If you don’t know who you are to begin with, how can you be the real you? So I’m going to challenge you. First, take a good look at who you are.

  • Are you happy with how you look physically?
    • Are you at the weight you want to be? By the way, I’m not talking about being fat or thin.
    • Do you dress in a way that feels good for you?
  • Are you a good person?
    • Are you friendly? Most of the time anyway? By the way, being nice doesn’t mean you aren’t smart!
    • Do you treat others the way you want to be treated?
  • What do you do for a living?
    • Do you like it?
    • Is it giving you the life you want?

If any of these things need to change, then change them. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Including from me. To live a clean life,  you have to know who you are  and if anything doesn’t line up with living a clean life, which I’ve talked about previously, then you need to change it. I only want the best for everyone, if you want my help, then contact me.

I would do a dis-service to my friends if I didn’t tell you about one of the movies they have produced. It is called The Martial Arts Kid. It is awesome, amazing, spell-binding! I could go on and on! In short, I really loved this movie! The Producer, James Wilson, did an amazing job. Cynthia Rothrock, Don “The Dragon” Wilson, and Jansen Panettiere and Kathryn Newton were the heroes. It was so true to life! It shows the true side of martial arts. Martial arts isn’t for fighting, it’s for defending yourself or someone else. And it will impact every area of your life, if you let it. I am so glad I got it! I can’t wait to watch it again! I can see why The Dove Foundation gave it 5 Doves! The fighting scenes were so well done! Not one fight was done by Aunt Cindy, Uncle Glen, or Robbie just because they wanted to fight someone. The scenery was outstanding! WOW! I know that they are working on the sequel to  it now. And I have no doubt it will be AMAZING as well.  You can purchase it from here: Traditionz Entertainment. And as a bonus, if you order it from here, it will be autographed by one of the actors in it. I know who, but I’m not telling. You will have to order to find out.

To contact me you can go here: Malissa Carole or you can reply here.


Going After Your Dreams

Going After Your Dreams

In my last blog entry I was talking about how taking care of yourself doesn’t mean that you neglect yourself. And I gave some suggestions that show you how to take care of yourself. But there is more to it than this. You need to get busy and create the life you want so once you get the balance you need, you can keep it. So how do you do this? I’ve got several great leaders in my life that are also amazing friends. One of them I met from network marketing. That is Dr. Reggie Cochran, who is an amazing business coach as well as an amazing friend to me. Others are Tony and Sarah Zolecki, Rick and Michelle Teague, Renae Green, and Steve Rose. Then I have friends like James Wilson and Anita Clay, who are producers for Traditionz Entertainment. And Esau McKnight who is also an actor/stunt man/martial arts master and the list goes on for Esau. And my friend Brian Fulginiti. Who is the leader of a page I’m part of on Facebook called Motivational Stars, as well as a few other motivational pages I’m on. Send me a private message and I will gladly connect you to him. Plus friends like Calvin Moss, Renea Green, Chad Statham, and Herman White. I am incredibly blessed to have these people in my life.  One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned from all these people is to work hard, but also play hard. Go after your dreams. You deserve it.  One of the things I’ve learned is that if you want your life to change, then get up and make it happen. It’s the only way your life will change. It starts with a dream. What is something you have only dreamed of doing? From there you need to decide that your dream can happen. From there you have to decide what needs to happen to make this happen. And then just start doing it. We are all going to get older. So, why not get older doing things that will give you the life you desire?

But what if you think all the cards are stacked against you? Well, in that case, you need to start with working on what you believe. One thing I do every morning is affirmations. I have some on my other blog you can use. You must believe that things can change. There are thousands of stories out there of people who have started with nothing, some even homeless, and within 5 years were multi-million dollar earners. Your life can change, but you must believe it before it can before it will. My life has been tough for over 2 decades now. But I made the decision in 2011 to make it change. And now I am 5 years down that road and my life is taking the form that it needs to take. In future blogs I’m going to be talking more about dreams, but for today, I want to start with the basics. What if you’ve forgotten how to dream? I know how that feels, I did. I had dreams that I had completely forgotten about. I became friends with Reggie and Brian in 2013 and 2014 respectfully. Between the two of these amazing friends I’ve learned how to dream again. How did I start? I started by learning to relax. And then daydreaming. Daydreaming isn’t just child’s play. Really think about what would you do if there were no limits?

  • Would you travel?
  • Would you live in a nicer home?
  • Would you have a better car?
  • Would you give more?
  • What can you think of?

If you need help, send me a reply. And I would absolutely love to help you. It’s where my heart is. Next week, I’ll elaborate on this topic further. Clean living is about a lot more than what you clean you house and body with, although that is a factor. It’s about keeping your mind clean also so you can go after what you want. Trash in trash out, good things in, good things out. Be blessed.