What’s Possible?

What’s Possible?

When I first decided to change my own life I was thinking, “can I do this? What if I’m not smart enough? What if I fail?” But along the way I met people who said, “what if you try?” And eventually I started trying something new. I am still trying new things. And in fact, one of the new things I’m doing is going back to school. And I’m getting a 98% in one class and a 99% in my other class. And I still have some projects to finish, plus 1 final exam. My friend, try something new. Need help? I’m here…


Being the Best

Being the Best

In life, we have the good, the better and the best. But then we have the best of the best. What sets the best of the best apart? In Martial Arts, we have black belts. Only 1 in 10,000 will reach black belt in martial arts. I don’t know the exact number, but I would be willing to bet that 1 in 25,000 reach the level of Grandmaster in Martial Arts. I have a bunch of friends who are black belts. But I can count on both hands the number of friends I have, that I talk to regularly, who are Grandmasters:

  • Reggie Cochran
  • Esau McKnight
  • Don “The Dragon” Wilson
  • James Wilson
  • Marian Kirby
  • Ted Gambordella
  • Chris Howard
  • Brian Brewer
  • Jay Blanton

Plus a few others. By the same token, I have friends in network marketing that are amazing leaders, but then I have those friends who are those who lead the leaders.

  • Reggie Cochran
  • Christian Gingras and his wife Tammy Sellars-Gingras
  • Alan & Jean Sickman
  • Tony & Sarah Zolecki
  • Rick & Michelle Teague
  • Alex Monterrosa

Did you notice who is on both lists? Dr. Reggie Cochran, he is not only a world champion in martial arts, 8th Degree Black belt in the Chuck Norris System, he is also Diamond in Max International. I am incredibly blessed to call Reggie one of my closest friends. My friend James Wilson, who is also a producer in Los Angeles, California told me as I was researching this idea “A Grandmaster should have many decades of experience, be a good teacher, have a calm, confident manner, and a desire to help others master their art, and perhaps even become better than they are.” James is truly one of the best of the best! And I’ve noticed this about all the people who are the best of the best. All the people I have listed here have been doing their trades, whether in martial arts or network marketing, or both for MANY years. In many cases for over 20 years.  Does this mean you shouldn’t have someone who is new, or only has a year or two of training under them? NO! But you should make sure that he or she has someone who is training them who does meet this qualification. If they are learning from someone who is a “top gun” then he or she will also develop the right skills.

To the leaders who read this: something I posted on Facebook a couple of weeks ago, one piece of advice: don’t quit on someone that you see is trying, even if they don’t accomplish much for a while. Just keep encouraging them to improve and eventually it will pay off. Sometimes the person who partners with you may not accomplish much outwardly, but inwardly he or she is paying attention. And in time, it will pay off in ways that you can’t even imagine! But some advice as well: NEVER tell someone they are not smart enough to be successful. Some things will come from it:

  • He or she will quit your team, but not necessarily your company. That person will find a leader who is willing to take time and teach him or her.
  • He or she may end up quitting your company, but then will probably join another company and be a Rockstar in the next company
    • think about lost profits had you been patient with him or her and given that person the time they needed to grow into the leader he or she wanted to be
    • Also, think about this: who is this person connected to? Even if he or she isn’t a Rockstar, he or she may know people that could be. And those people will join him or her. Which will lead to those Rockstars as he or she grows. And he or she, as a result of the people he or she hangs out with, will become a Rockstar too.

In closing, remember this: you are like the 5 people you spend the most time with. Are you hanging out with leaders, or thos

TEAM: Together Everyone Achieves More

TEAM: Together Everyone Achieves More

I have gone back to school and I’m pursuing a Bachelor of Science in Nutrition Science from Kaplan University. I am currently taking two classes. One class is Professional Presence. Today’s blog is from an assignment I was given in that class.

Imagine a situation where you are paired up with a coworker to complete a very important project for your company. The coworker does not share the same work ethic that you do, and you are concerned about working together toward successful completion of the project. It is not a job that you can handle on your own as there are a lot of specialty areas that this person knows well and you know nothing about. Discuss at least three things you can do to improve your working relationship with this person so that you do not dread going to work every day and that will improve the work you produce as a team.

My response to this is today’s blog:






This is an acronym that I learned a few years ago, and it applies directly to this discussion.  I’ve been involved in several situations over the years, not in the work place, but in meetings with my children like this environment. Primarily with the public-school system to create what we call an I.E.P. Or an Individualized Educational Plan. Which is a meeting in which we decide how to address my children’s special needs. For those of you who don’t know, my 18-year-old and 20-year-old children have high functioning autism. Most of these meeting involved social workers and most of the time we did not get along.  In a situation like this, I would need to be proactive. But in a different way than an I.E.P. meeting. In this scenario, I would need to get the other person to work with me.  How can I get the other person to act? What motivates them? Would completing this project help him score points with the boss? Is he or she at risk for losing their job? These answers would only be discovered by talking to each other. We need to work together.  A second thing we would need to do is have a meeting to create a plan on how to complete the project. One thing we can do is create a matrix that would show who is responsible for what. And create a timeline to show what needs to be done by when. We also will need to meet regularly for progress updates and agree to notify each other if any of the deadlines won’t be met. In an article in Forbes, I found several other ideas. One really stands out:“Don’t let their ways rub off on you.” (2011) One thing I learned years ago, is that I am like the 5 people I spend the most time with. If you are going to be spending a sizable amount of time with this person, this could easily become an issue. Be mindful of it. A second thing that stands out is “Don’t let their work become your responsibility.” (2011) Finally, “Communicate with your co-worker. He or she might not be lazy. Instead, they might be unclear of their tasks and deadlines. “Be clear about goals, deadlines and commitments,” says Robbins. “Sometimes it’s not that they’re lazy, it’s that they don’t have a good way of organizing their work or managing their time.” There’s always a chance that they’re preoccupied with a personal matter, too. “We need to remember that life happens,” says Robbins. They could be distracted by a health issue or family problem.” (2011)



Lessons From Producers: Creating a New YOU!

Lessons From Producers: Creating a New YOU!

I have a few friends on Facebook who are Producers in the movie industry in Los Angeles, California. Namely, James Wilson, his brother Don “The Dragon” Wilson, and Anita Clay. All 3 are amazing! They are producers for Traditionz Entertainment, along with the amazing Cynthia Rothrock. In the process of talking to Anita and James, who are amazing friends as well, I’ve gleaned a little about how they create movies. One of the things they have to do is what I’m going to talk about today. They have to create the characters in the movies. What do they look like? Are they good or bad? What do they do for a living? All the details that go into a movie. What does that have to do with you and living clean? If you don’t know who you are to begin with, how can you be the real you? So I’m going to challenge you. First, take a good look at who you are.

  • Are you happy with how you look physically?
    • Are you at the weight you want to be? By the way, I’m not talking about being fat or thin.
    • Do you dress in a way that feels good for you?
  • Are you a good person?
    • Are you friendly? Most of the time anyway? By the way, being nice doesn’t mean you aren’t smart!
    • Do you treat others the way you want to be treated?
  • What do you do for a living?
    • Do you like it?
    • Is it giving you the life you want?

If any of these things need to change, then change them. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Including from me. To live a clean life,  you have to know who you are  and if anything doesn’t line up with living a clean life, which I’ve talked about previously, then you need to change it. I only want the best for everyone, if you want my help, then contact me.

I would do a dis-service to my friends if I didn’t tell you about one of the movies they have produced. It is called The Martial Arts Kid. It is awesome, amazing, spell-binding! I could go on and on! In short, I really loved this movie! The Producer, James Wilson, did an amazing job. Cynthia Rothrock, Don “The Dragon” Wilson, and Jansen Panettiere and Kathryn Newton were the heroes. It was so true to life! It shows the true side of martial arts. Martial arts isn’t for fighting, it’s for defending yourself or someone else. And it will impact every area of your life, if you let it. I am so glad I got it! I can’t wait to watch it again! I can see why The Dove Foundation gave it 5 Doves! The fighting scenes were so well done! Not one fight was done by Aunt Cindy, Uncle Glen, or Robbie just because they wanted to fight someone. The scenery was outstanding! WOW! I know that they are working on the sequel to  it now. And I have no doubt it will be AMAZING as well.  You can purchase it from here: Traditionz Entertainment. And as a bonus, if you order it from here, it will be autographed by one of the actors in it. I know who, but I’m not telling. You will have to order to find out.

To contact me you can go here: Malissa Carole or you can reply here.


Are You Caged In?

Are You Caged In?

Mohini was a magnificent white tiger that lived in the US’s National Zoo in Washington DC in the 1960s. Mohini was a special gift presented to the US president Eisenhower, and the US people. The Zoo started a major project to build a large enclosure for Mohini, their star attraction. The enclosure would simulate Mohini’s natural habitat as closely as possible. It would have many acres of lush forest with rolling hills and a large pond. It would be Mohini playground for her to stretch and express her natural self as one of nature’s most splendid and powerful creatures. Meanwhile, while the large enclosure was being built, Mohini was kept in a 12 x 12 feet cage with iron bars and cement floor. Mohini would pace around ceaselessly in this cage while her eventual home was being built. Finally, the enclosure was completed and the big day of releasing Mohini into it had arrived. A large excited crowd had gathered to witness this much awaited event. To everyone’s surprise, instead of frolicking in joy in her new sprawling enclosure, Mohini headed straight for a perimeter wall at the enclosure’s edge. At the wall, Mohini started to pace around in an imaginary cage, just like the way she had while waiting for the enclosure to be build. Mohini stayed in this tiny corner at the wall for the remainder of her life, oblivious to the freedom and choices she had.

How many of us live our lives in a cage like Mohini lived in? We deserve more! A lot more!!! So what can you do? Yesterday in church my pastor talked about this. There are 4 things that can help he taught.

  1. Redeem the routines. What are you doing that allow time to be redeemed? Are you getting ready for the day? Listen to a audiobook. Are you driving  for 20-30 minutes? Same thing. Get creative. And have fun with this.
  2. Reduce the hurry in life. Slow down and make some time in your schedule to just rest. Carl Jung said “Hurry is not of the devil, hurry is the devil.” And he is right on target!
  3. Regularly meditate the Word. Yes, I said the Word. Go beyond meditating on the word to really thinking on The Word itself. You will be amazed at the results you get!
  4. Finally,  review and renew life paths. Is what you’re doing working? If it isn’t maybe it’s time to change some things. Failure is only failure if you quit. You can change how you do things as often as you need to.



What are you thinking???

What are you thinking???

For many years my life was one of crying, most of the time privately. It was one of wanting the life I  saw people I  respected have. Of wanting but not knowing how to get. But then the day came that I was ready to do whatever it took to make it happen. And that is the day that my life began to shift. That shift was originally in my mind.

Our mindset dictates our entire lives. The success we see, or the failure we see. What you think on and focus on is what you attract to yourself. When you decide that you are going to do whatever it takes to  see your life changed, your life will change. It’s inevitable. Think of it this way, you get to a crossroads. You can either go the direction that you’ve been going, or you can go the direction that will lead you to a better life. The choice is 100% yours. If you decide that you are going to  make the changes, and you are sincere, your life will show it.


What is your WHY?

What is your WHY?


Why are you doing what you’re doing? Do you know what you want? Do you have any idea WHY you are doing what you are doing? I have the Greater One living in me! It’s time to Rise and Grind!!!! Figure out what you want, figure out WHY you want it!!!! Then just do it!!!!

For the past several years I’ve been working on changing my life.  And my life has changed. In the past 2 weeks I’ve started some new things. Including a new job. I’m working on generating some additional income for some plans I have in place. When you know WHY you know what you want,  you are going to be willing to RISE and GRIND to do whatever is necessary to make it  happen.

The most  successful people I know have worked very hard for a season (usually less than 10 years) so they can have the life  they want. They worked sometimes 60-80 hours  a week to make it so at the end of that season they can cut back to 20 hours a week. But get paid over and over for the work they did during that season they worked 60-80 hours a week. It’s called building residual income and it makes doing this possible.

What does this have to do with living clean? Everything! Think how much better your life would be if you only had to work 4 hours a day 5 times a week. And for the most part, you decide when to work. To me, that is true freedom and it is directly linked to clean living. If you know what you want,  but need help, talk to me. I can and will help.