Faith…in God

Faith…in God

Hebrews 11 says that faith is the substance of things hoped for the evidence of things not seen. There are over 60 verses in the bible related to faith. That’s a lot! Several times Jesus told people who came to Him for healing that their faith had healed them, or their servant, or child. Faith is strong! It can move mountains, destroy strongholds, raise the dead and heal the sick.

So, why do people die when they are too young and what does this have to do with faith? Is it Jesus fault? I don’t believe that for a minute! It happens because we live in a fallen world. Jesus said that I came that you might have life and have it abundantly! (John 10:10). Faith can allow us to speak to a mountain and command it to fall!

How many mountains are in your life? What is holding you back to having the life you want? My friend, that is a mountain! So, how do you deal with that mountain? You speak to it and by faith take it. You do this by prayer. Take faith and combine it with prayer. When you do this, and continue to claim it until you receive it, you will have it.

Do you want prosperity? Ask for it! Do you want health? Ask for it! But when you ask for it, believe you receive it and you will have it. Reggie, back in 2014, taught me a simple way to pray. It’s called a sandwich prayer. You simply praise God for whatever comes to mind. Then you ask God for whatever is on your heart. Then you simply praise God until you see it come to pass. This applies to anything you want to pray about, no matter what.


Energy and Success in Martial Arts

Energy and Success in Martial Arts

Welcome to part 2 of this series on martial arts. How often have you wished that you had more energy so you could have more success in your life? One of the things I love when I’m working out is how I can go into a class tired, but come out energized! And also empowered!

There are some very physical reasons that contribute to having energy after working out, but for today, I’m just going to leave it at this: your body loves it when you exercise and it will pay you back with more energy if you expend some energy. If you doubt me, go take a class for a month and see if you don’t have more energy at the end of the month that you do at the beginning of the month.

Do you want to feel empowered? Martial arts can help with this also! Imagine the confidence you would have if you knew that going into any situation you would emerge victorious. Maybe you live in an area that has gang problems. Or maybe you live in a home that you don’t feel safe in. Something else I’ve realized in myself since I started training is that I have the confidence to take on things that that I normally would not have.

In the past 2 weeks I’ve talked about several different reasons to get into martial arts. Next week, I’m going to close this part out by describing some of the different styles of martial arts. Some are Chinese based, others are Japanese, some are Korean, and there are also American styles. I’ll describe some of them. It would be nearly impossible to tell about all of them. But this will give you a starting point as you consider joining this family.


But my diet is good, oh really?

But my diet is good, oh really?

What is the danger of being on a restrictive diet? I’m not going to name certain diets in this blog. But on Facebook recently a friend asked me about a certain diet that she follows. In this diet, a few things concern me.

One, it is restrictive. And diets that are restrictive long term sometimes are not safe. Plus, it just isn’t realistic to stick with long term. And as I’ve said previously, if you can’t stick with it long term, the odds of being successful on it are slim.

Plus, some foods are called superfoods. These foods are heavy in necessary nutrients. Examples are broccoli, watermelon, cauliflower, eggs, and many others. But with some diets, these necessary foods are not allowed.

Another concern with some diets is that it just isn’t based on science. One person told me that follows a certain diet used the argument that medical professionals are biased. And don’t know. Now, I recognize the fact that many doctors are not taught much about nutrition. Most only get 12-25 hours of training. But, if a doctor makes a recommendation you can be sure he or she is making the most informed decision possible.

Some restrictive diets can be dangerous for some people with certain medical disorders. An example is diabetes. A restrictive diet can be void of foods that can help that medical condition. So, what do you do?

My personal recommendation is that you get help setting up a healthy diet from someone who has the knowledge you need. I can do this, and don’t let cost prevent you from asking me for help. If money is an issue, we will work it out.



Living Clean, in your…

Living Clean, in your…

What does it mean to live clean? Can it be done affordably? One of the most common things I hear is that “I can’t afford to live clean.” My favorite personal care products are affordable. And you can even save $10 on your initial order. At the end of this I’ll tell you how you can even get them for free! (YES, I said FREE!).

But, first, what does it mean to live clean? I define it this way: living in such a way that your mind and body and environment are free from anything dirty or unhealthy. To accomplish this, it is important to pay attention to how you talk, what you eat, drink, and put in or on your body. This also applies to the cleaning products in our homes. A little-known fact is that cleaning products can be absorbed into our skin. So, what we use in our homes is just as important as what we use on our bodies. I’m going to touch on all these areas, but today I’m going to talk about assumptions

Some assumptions are good, but others are bad. I have heard people say things like “I can’t afford to eat organic” or “I think what I’m using is fine” or when it comes to a certain diet, “My doctor wouldn’t approve.”

My question for you is this: Have you shown your doctor what you want to do? Or are you assuming? Based on the people I talk to; my hunch is you are mostly assuming. Sometimes it is okay to assume. We make assumptions all the time. We assume that if we drink alcohol we will get into a car accident. We assume that if we get a college degree we will automatically get a job because of it. We assume if we eat junk food we will be okay. How many other assumptions have you made? I’d love to know. Please, put this in the comments. As you can see here, some assumptions are healthy, such as drinking and driving. But others are not good, such as thinking that eating junk food on a regular basis is okay. You may be okay doing this for a little while, even for several years. But, over time science has shown that this can have a major impact on your health.

Next week I’m going to talk about junk food and healthy alternatives. This will be a follow-up to what I’m talking about on Thursday, which is certain diets. So, you will want to stay tuned!

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The Desire to Change

The Desire to Change

This is from a note I posted on Facebook on June 4, 2017 and I’m doing an impromptu repost of it here.

When I was a girl I had a lot of struggles. I had a hard time remembering things and would struggle to learn the most basic things in school. Doing things like putting a puzzle together or writing was hard. My mom was wonderful growing up. She made sure I got the help I needed. One summer stands out as one of the best summers of my life. From 1975 to 1977 my Mom, my brother Glenn, and I were living near Eglin Air Force Base in Florida. I had a teacher named Mrs. Bullock. To this day, she stands out as one of my favorite teachers ever. The summer of 1976 stands out. Almost every day, I would go to see Mrs. Bullock. We would go to the beach and collect seashells. When we felt like we had enough, we went to her house and I took all those seashells and glued them on a bottle she had. During that time, we would talk and I think, looking back now, it was a way that I got speech and occupational therapy. The bottle has been lost for many years now, but the memories of that summer remain. Looking back now, I learned a lot more that summer than how to decorate a bottle with seashells. I learned to trust people outside of my home. And I also learned about changes. Prior to this I had my mom, dad, who was gone a lot and that particular time frame he was in Panama, and Glenn. Plus, a nanny when I was little and we lived in Germany. We had moved there when I was barely a month old and lived there until I was almost 6. This was from 1968 to 1972. That summer of 1976 I learned to change. I learned that I can do things that are hard and saw that I can be successful. After that summer passed I had Mrs. Bullock as a teacher again for the second grade. She continued to work with me doing puzzles and talking about different things. Over the two years that I had Mrs. Bullock in my life, I grew by leaps and bounds.
Flash forward to 2011. I had grown up, graduated from high school started college, but quit just prior to graduating because I thought I was close to graduating and I had thought that I was done. Another lesson learned. Make sure that you are on track to complete your task. Track your activities. This goes directly with changing. That year I spent most of my time sick. By November, I was hitting rock bottom. One day I was home and sitting on the edge of my bed crying. I told God to either take me home or help me get better. I was married, had 4 kids that I home-schooled. All of which were going for speech therapy, three were going for occupational therapy, and one was going for physical therapy as well almost every day of the week. This had been going on since 1998. I didn’t want to die, but I truly felt like I was. That day I started following Dr. Don Colbert on Facebook. And while I was very quiet for several months, I was paying attention. In March of 2012 I started asking questions that would begin to help me recover. Over time as I followed his advice, I began to get better. In 2013, I joined a network marketing company and began to learn how to see my life could be better by the people I allowed into it. During this time, I became friends with the man who eventually would become my sponsor in the network marketing company I am now in. His name is Chad Statham. He showed me how to make healthy friends (without ever telling me this directly). He also taught me what the difference is between a good leader and a great leader. A good leader will say he cares and will show it from time to time. A great leader will consistently show he or she cares. I learned this from my amazing friend and leader, Reggie Cochran as well. As I look back and remember Mrs. Bullock, she taught me this also. She showed me she cared. So, did Reggie and Chad. It’s one thing to say you care. It’s a different story to show you care. This is lesson number two. For things to change, you must show you care more about others than yourself. It’s not about money. I’ve seen this in the people that Chad and Reggie have as leaders as well. Which leads to lesson three in changing.
In the bible, Jesus grew in wisdom and in stature. With favor with God and man. This is found in Luke 2:52. To grow in favor with man, you must have compassion. If you want things to change in life, compassion must dominate your character. There is a saying I love by Teddy Roosevelt, “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” The leaders I have are the most compassionate people I’ve ever met. That is what makes them incredible leaders. Herman White, Tony & Sarah Zolecki, Rick & Michelle Teague, John & Nadya Melton, Reggie and Terry Cochran, Crystal Meisner, Anita Clay, Gena Norris, Chris Lianos, Jeff Lord, Barb Hollace, Annie Berryhill, Loretta Monteiro, and several others are my leaders. I call them my leaders purely because they truly care. And have more compassion than anyone I know. It has nothing to do with how much money they have. It has everything to do with how much they care. This has been the dominating factor in who I count as leaders. It’s not about religion. I am a Christian, but not all the people I consider my leaders are. Do you want to be a leader? Show compassion and the followers will come. But also, be kind. Be willing to be there, even when it’s inconvenient. And finally, be open to change. Because to be a leader, you must be open to change. Even when it isn’t easy. This picture is of Chad and I. It was taken in June of 2014.
Chad and I
Martial Arts: Break What YOU Believe!

Martial Arts: Break What YOU Believe!

Today, I am beginning a 3-part series on martial arts. Disclaimer: I am not a black belt, yet. But I have a lot of friends who are black belts in this. One of my new friends is nick-named “The Martial Art’s Woman.” Her name is Andrea Harkins. Other friends are Anita Clay, who not a black belt, yet, but is a fantastic actress in action films. One of her more recent movies is called “Paying Mr. McGetty.” In this movie, she plays with another friend of mine, Don “The Dragon” Wilson. If you don’t know who he is, you should look him up. Plus, James Wilson, and Reggie Cochran. And MANY others.

Today, I want to suggest something. We hear about how good martial arts is for children. But have you considered why adults should do this? Some of this came from Andrea Harkins’ blog. Which can be found here: The Martial Arts Woman. Andrea gives 4 compelling reasons for adults to do martial arts related to perspective. One, is if you have a poor perception about what you believe about yourself, martial arts can help. It can help you be stronger emotionally and you will realize you are stronger. This will carry over into your life in general. There are 6 principles that are taught in martial arts:

  1. Indomitable spirit
  2. Humility
  3. Focus
  4. Discipline
  5. Determination
  6. Integrity

But today’s blog is about exercise. But, is martial arts about exercise, fighting, or self-defense? It’s about all 3! In a good school, you will get a fantastic workout! But you also get lessons in self-defense: which involves fighting. Hopefully, that need won’t ever come up. But if it does, you will learn how to handle it. One of the things that I’ve learned is that your self-esteem will improve. The reason for this is simple: you will be asked to do things that you are not certain you can do. For example, one of the things I was taught to do is to break a board. I did it! And when I did, it was a HUGE confidence booster. A second thing I was told to do is do a running side kick into a dummy. As your self-esteem increases, you become a better version of you. In this series, I want to challenge you: if you want to become a better version of yourself, get started in martial arts! The picture below is of myself, Kathy Long, and my daughter Mary at a self-defense seminar we attended in Dallas, Texas in April of 2016.

Coming up: Energy and success in martial arts.